My Wife Is Done With Our Marriage

My Wife Is Done With Our MarriageMy Wife Is Done With Our Marriage

Does your wife want a divorce and you do not know what to do?  You are not the only husband thinking, “My wife is done with our marriage”.Continue reading below and see how others, in similar situations to your own, used Marriage Fitness to prevent their spouse from divorcing them and together built a connection again.

I’ve Made Mistakes In My Marriage

Dear Mort,

I have spent just about every free moment that I had over the past 2 1/2 months listening, reading and thinking about your program. I am in the Lone Ranger track and it has been a hard period for me. However, your program has been a comfort to me. It has helped me to see mistakes that I made in my marriage. It has also encouraged me and made me feel validated because there were things that I intuitively recognized, but was not sure if I was on the right path. After reading and hearing the materials my spirit would be encouraged and lifted. I have been able to remain calm and do what is right. Your program makes so much sense and is presented in such an organized and complete way. It has just been a real help to me.

Thank you.

Marriage Fitness Helped Save Our Marriage

Hi Mort,

My wife and I highly recommend the Marriage Fitness Program to couples with a problem marriage whether being because of emotional neglect or physical infidelity. My wife was emotionally unfaithful, and when I first found out about it I was devastated. I was very confused and thought this was the end of our marriage after being married for almost twenty five years. I found out about your program and decided that if we were going to try to save our marriage we needed to try out your marriage fitness program. It helped us see what was the real problem in our marriage, and how to handle our problems. We have reconnected in many ways and do not take each other for granted anymore. We both thank God for your help and insight and we wish you the best in helping others with their marital problems.

Mort Saved Our Family

Mort,

Just wanted you to know things are great with Joanne and myself. Our relationship has improved so much. We are spending time together and enjoying each other’s company. Learning that it is more important to pay attention to ourselves has made all the difference in the relationship. I sure have changed a lot of things I say and how I react to certain things. This whole 2 yrs has shown Joanne and me a lot. She thanks you also. There was really no other way that she could have shown us both that she needed to grow. She  didn’t know how and just kept it all in until he exploded. She is such a wonderful person. I wish we could have known these things ahead of time. I have referred so many people to you. We continue to have fun and laugh at things now instead of letting everything consume us. I went from thinking my wife is done with our marriage to saying thanks for saving my family.

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Signs My Wife Is Cheating

Signs My Wife Is CheatingSigns My Wife Is Cheating

Are you a husband that is looking for “signs my wife is cheating”? Feel free to continue reading other testimonials to see how Marriage Fitness saved their marriages.

Discovering My Spouses Affair

Prior to starting your program, our 11 year marriage was in ruins. We were divorcing, fighting over the kids and who got to keep the furniture and pets. We had gone through my discovering my husbands 10 year affair, my own emotional affair, not to mention the years of financial distress, the stress of two jobs and three kids, plus verbal and emotional abuse after all this we thought that it was over. I accidentally came across your site one day while looking for something pertaining to my upcoming divorce and thought what would it hurt to give it a try. My husband went along with it, and from the first week, things changed. After going through your program we are closer than we have ever been and we are finally a team. Thank you very much for your great program, it saved us and our family.

 

“I Cheated On My Husband”

Dear Mort,

I just wanted to write you and tell you that you have been a bigger and more inspiring help than our marriage counselor that we have been seeing for over a month.

I had an affair that lasted 9 months. Why? Because I felt like I wasn’t getting the attention that I had thought that I “required.” My husband whom I never stopped loving decided to forgive me but in the process is still bitter and hurt. You have helped him and myself learn how to get over the pain and continue on with a marriage that we both want to last  forever.

 Rebuilding Your Marriage After An Affair

Men all around the world are wondering “how can I tell if my wife is cheating”.  If you are one of those men, Marriage Fitness can be the savior that you need and you will never have to wonder again “is my wife cheating on me”.  Some couples just need an extra push to get their marriage back to the way it was.

Contact Marriage Fitness to find out how you can get whatever is missing back into your marriage. Be one of the people that can say, “My relationship is slowly transforming into something new and infinitely more positive”.

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How To Put An End To An Affair

How To Put An End To An AffairHow To Put An End To An Affair

Are you and your husband trying to recover from your husbands infidelity? Do you want to find out how to put an end to an affair?  Continue reading below and you will see how others that were in your shoes recovered and got their marriage back on track using Marriage Fitness.

Calling It Quits

Mr. Fertel…..

My wife and I have been married for 29 years. Almost ten years ago, our marriage began a downhill slide that nearly ended in divorce. There were many issues — job loss, career decisions made unilaterally, finances, pornography, flirtations. We were desperate, and were ready to “call it quits“.

Last December, I had what you describe as an “emotional affair” online with a high school classmate. It was the culmination of a long period of time when I was not connected to my marriage and my wife. She discovered that I had been “chatting” with this woman, and we had a major blow-up. One morning in my desperation I “googled” counselors and found your website. I completed the online marriage quizzes and am embarrassed to say that I failed miserably. However, that was the beginning of a complete change in direction for me and our marriage. All I can say is that you must have been sent by God to me and my marriage. It has been nothing short of miraculous. You have truly been a blessing to us, and have made an ENORMOUS difference in me and the way I view my marriage, in my wife and how she “sees” me, and how we communicate with each other.

Miraculous Change In My Marriage

We have purchased and listened to your CD’s, and have just completed our second reading of your book. We have applied your techniques and can say, beyond a shadow of a doubt, you have transformed our lives! We both read and print off your emails as they come, and are consistently amazed that the words we read are exactly what we need at that moment, or reflect the feelings we have felt in the recent past. It is to the point now where we both look forward to them arriving in my in-box because it inspires us to be better people, a better couple, and better parents to our children.

Creating An Environment To Heal In

All I/we can say is THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts. Thank you for bringing me back to my wife from the brink of disaster, thank you for helping my wife find the ability to forgive, thank you for helping us see WE can have a marriage we can be proud of for our family and ourselves. Most of all, thank you for helping us create an environment to heal all of the old wounds and pain I created as a result of selfishness and foolishness, and for giving us the tools to create the kind of marriage we should have had all these years. We will both be forever grateful.

Infidelity is hard to recover from.  If your husband cheated on you and you want to trust him again, Marriage Fitness can be the answer to your prayers.

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My Husband Criticizes Me All The Time

My Husband Criticizes Me All The Time

Hello, my name is Carol. I would like to share with you a story about what caused my husband and I to search for Christian Marriage Counseling in Arizona.

My husband Rick and I got married thirty years ago. From the beginning of our relationship, we both had very strong personalities. At first, our differences were a positive for the both of us. We both took us being different as a challenge, and we were both ready to take on that challenge. Bickering between my husband and I was normal and rarely got out of hand.

No Longer A Joke

In most cases the bickering that went on between my husband and I seemed to be more of a flirty type of bickering instead of being angry at each other because one of us took it too far. The problem was that as time went by, my husband would take us bickering to a whole different level. It was more of a putting down then a harmless teasing. It went from Rick joking about things to him constantly telling me how stupid I am for not knowing something.

At first, I wouldn’t take what Rick was saying to heart, but the more and more he criticized me, the more our children would mimic his teasing. Once my grown kids felt comfortable enough to call me stupid, I was livid. I was angry with my kids because I know that I did not raise them in a way that they would find it okay to talk back to their mother, but I was more angry and hurt by my husband who by example, showed them that it is okay to talk to me that way.

My Husband Criticizes Me All The Time

Constant Criticism

There was no way that I was going to let the constant criticism get worse, and I certainly felt it was important to show that I am the mother of the household, and wife for that matter, and I deserve respect. My husband and I would joke around all of the time, one thing we never did was to call each other names or belittle the other person. Even though we would bicker, we still had a tremendous sense of respect for each other. My lack of knowledge of certain subjects used to be cute to my husband, now it is a great topic of conversation of how dumb I am to not be able to figure some silly math equation out.

To make matters worse, my husband felt it was necessary to expose all of my “silly” questions to people outside of the house as well. So it went from me not being respected as a wife, a mother, and now a member of society. I was heartbroken that my husband felt that it would be funny to let everyone know how bad I am at certain subjects.

In Need of a Change

After being teased and mocked for quite a while, I finally was able to stand up to my husband and let him know what I was feeling. I was so sick of feeling that my husband criticizes me all the time. I had held my feelings in for quite a while, and truthfully, I was at the point where I knew that our marriage was in trouble. To resolve things between my husband and I, and for my children to have positive role models, we decided that marriage counseling would be the best solution for the both of us.

Since we were both new to the idea, we decided to start our search by looking into Christian Marriage Counseling in Arizona. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. This program allowed my husband and I to successfully work on our marriage all from the comfort of our own home. Finally, both my husband and I can now laugh again.

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My Husband Gambled All Our Money

My Husband Gambled All Our Money

Hello, my name is Christie. I would like to take the opportunity to share with you what happened after my husband gambled all our money. I would also like to share with you what happened that caused my husband and I seek help for our marriage.

Back Story

Almost twenty nine years ago, I met my husband, John. From the second that I met my husband, I knew that I wanted to marry him. At the time when we met, my husband was going through a rough time and I was more than willing to wait for him to be ready to get involved in a relationship with me. Even though most of my friends and family were not so thrilled with the type of man that he was, I was willing to look past everything and continue our relationship.

John had a problem with gambling, and I was determined that I was going to help him. I waited until he told me he was not going to gamble anymore to marry him. The day that he told me that he was finished with his gambling ways, we started planning a wedding. I was naïve and didn’t think he would ever go back to gambling. I couldn’t wait to marry him. I also couldn’t wait for everyone to finally approve of our relationship.

My Husband Gambled Alll Our Money

So Many Questions

As years went by in our marriage, our finances were always a sore topic. I never knew what came into the marriage, and what came out. For years into our marriage, I would always ask why we didn’t buy a house and my husband would make up every excuse in the book as to why we were constantly moving. Since I trusted my husband, I didn’t think anything fishy was going on.

It wasn’t until John’s friends staged an “intervention” and confronted both him and I about money that was owed to them and how they were worried. I was in complete shock. I had no idea that my husband has been borrowing money for so long, and that the money that was coming into our marriage was used to gamble. Our entire marriage seemed to be a lie. Nothing made sense. I was so confused and scared. How was I going to fix this situation? My husband who had been lying to me for our whole marriage not only betrayed me but put me in tremendous debt without ever letting me know.

Needing a Solution

I was so upset that my husband put our family in jeopardy for such a selfish reason, and the fact that he lied all of these years made me irate. Not only was I angry with my husband, but I was angry at myself for actually believing that everything was fixed and taken care of. I should have known better to relinquish all of my earnings to my husband.

As much as I was angry that my husband gambled all our money, I also knew that something needed to be done. Either I would walk away from our marriage, or we would work something out. I needed to learn how to trust my husband again. After not getting anywhere with my husband, we decided that we should seek counseling. We came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to learn how to better communicate with each other and to work on building trust again. Though earning trust doesn’t happen overnight, I am certainly seeing a huge improvement in my husband.

 

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My Husband Can’t Keep A Job

My Husband Can’t Keep A Job

Hello, my name is Joanne. I would like to share with you a story about what caused my husband and I to search for Christian Marriage Counseling in Alaska.

Working Together

My husband Mitch and I have been married for what seems to be one hundred years but in reality it has only been thirty two years. Together we have three absolutely terrific children and despite everything that has happened between my husband and I, one thing we always agreed on is that our job is to be the best parents we possibly can to our children. I can confidently say that we actually succeeded our expectations when it came to our parenting.

Though my husband is a terrific father and does a great job parenting our children, the problem that I have with him is that he can’t keep an actual job outside of the house. For someone who is as brilliant as he is to not be able to keep a job really baffles my mind. For the thirty two years that we have been married, my husband seems to stay a job for a year or two, and then he manages to either get laid off or fired.

My Husband Can't Keep A Job

Lack of Motivation

For years, I was okay with being the breadwinner of the family but as time went on, I started to resent my husband for being lazy. It’s one thing if I would be at work all day, and he would take care of the house when he was home but that was never the case. I would come home from a busy day at work to him either playing video games with the kids, or him researching potential players for his fantasy sport team. The more and more I would come home to a unmotivated husband, the more I would be frustrated. Instead of expressing my feelings to my husband, I would either be extremely sarcastic towards him or totally not interested in what he had to say. I knew that he had the potential to be successful in whatever he put his mind to, and because he wasn’t interested in being successful that made me respect him less and less as time went on. It sort of got to the point where I actually would think to myself that he is below me.

Losing Respect

Every time I would inquire about a potential job that my husband would have lined up, instead of being excited for him about his possible new career, my first thoughts would be to not believe what he had to say. It just seemed fishy to me that every job that he would be interested in, and “have an interview for” would never work out. I always believed that you should aim high, and even though my husband tells our children to always reach for the stars, how could they even respect the career advice that my husband would give when he can’t keep a job at all. I was afraid that not only I would not respect him for his life choices but our children wouldn’t respect him as well. Since being positive role models to our children was extremely important to both my husband and I, I thought that it would be best for my husband and I to work on our marriage so that we could understand our decisions much better, and that we could learn how to work past the negative parts in our marriage. After discussing with my husband my quest for help in our marriage, and my concerns that my husband can’t keep a job, we decided to search for marital help online. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to work on our marriage all from the comfort of our own home. We finally learned how to gain respect for each other again.

 

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How to Break Bad Marriage Habits and Build a Lasting Relationship

If bad marriage habits are taking the romance out of your relationship, it’s time to take notice and take action. The fact of the matter is that lasting relationships are not born; they are built. And while most marriages start off on solid ground, over time that foundation can begin to shake. The culprit: bad marital habits.

Whether one or both spouses have begun to slack off, typical poor habits in a marriage include: being forgetful, inconsiderate, unsupportive, uncommunicative, or simply being lazy. The good news is that with concerted effort and some small but consistent actions, good marital habits are just as easy to build up as bad habits are to break.

The key to saving your marriage from the grips of negative habits is to put into place a system of positive, healthy relationship habits which you and your spouse practice on a daily or weekly basis. Every thoughtful act, kind loving word, or heartfelt gesture can go a long way in shifting the momentum of your marriage and putting you on the fast track to relationship success.

Over time, marriage problems are bound to occur as bad habits inevitably creep up. Fortunately, by becoming aware of your own poor relationship habits, there are concrete actions you can take to reverse the tide and put your marriage back on the love boat.

So what are some of the positive actions you should be spending your time and energy on in order to save your marriage? The key to couple success, contrary to popular belief, is not communication or problem-solving. Rather, the key to a long and lasting married life is CONNECTION. If you and your spouse can connect deeply and personally on a regular basis, you will be injecting love and life back into your ailing relationship. In fact, you will probably remember what made you fall in love with each other in the first place!

Here are some tips on how to break destructive marriage patterns and ‘make love’ through positive actions which will strengthen your relationship and ensure marital bliss for years to come:

  • Go on a weekly ‘date night,’ during which you do NOT speak about the kids, the bills, or the in-laws
  • Steal a romantic kiss in the elevator
  • Share a spoon over your favorite desert
  • Fall asleep holding hands
  • Give your spouse your undivided attention as they relay the events of his/her day
  • Support your spouse’s interests by showing up to their next soccer game or surprising them with a gift certificate to their favorite bookstore
  • Volunteer together
  • Try something new together – a new recipe, a new restaurant, skydiving, or ballroom dancing

Doing meaningful things together and for each other boosts positive feelings, infuses positive energy, and increases the well-being of a marriage. In turn, couples who are connected feel happier, more positive about the future, and more inspired to continue the new cycle of healthy relationship habits.

Marriage help begins at home, so start today by replacing your old habits with new positive actions which will create the building blocks for a strong and enduring marital foundation.

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Top 10 Ways To Prevent Divorce

It is estimated that 50% of all first marriages end in divorce, with the divorce rates climbing even higher for second and third marriages. This begs the question: What does it take to succeed in a relationship and can you keep your marriage from deteriorating and falling apart?

If your marriage is in trouble and your relationship with your spouse is on shaky ground, pay special heed to the following top 10 tips on how to stop divorce.

Top 10 Divorce Prevention Tips

  1. The best way to stop divorce is to change yourself: ask what YOU can do to improve the situation

  2. There are no ‘quick fixes’ to saving a dying marriage: begin the real process of stopping divorce by putting into place building blocks for a healthy and long-lasting marriage

  3. Explore the childhood roots of your relationship habits and how they may be contributing to your present marital circumstances

  4. Work with a professional to put your past hurts behind you, using painful events as a catalyst for change in yourself and your marriage

  5. Do not let an obstinate spouse stand in your way: take action and begin the process of stopping divorce by yourself

  6. If your spouse had an affair, ask: What was my spouse seeking outside our marriage that was not available within it?

  7. Do not choose divorce until one full year AFTER you think you have done everything in your power to make your marriage work

  8. Become involved with your spouse’s interests, using each other’s passions to rekindle that special, personal connection between you

  9. Reinvigorate your relationship with a daily positive verbal exchange, such as a compliment or a phone call to say: “I’m thinking about you.”

  10. Learn how to forgive and be forgiven

For more insight and advice on how to stop divorce and reignite the passion in your relationship, please see our 7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage.

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7 Tips To Recover From Infidelity

  1. Even though your spouse cheated on you (and they are responsible and must change), ask yourself what YOUR fixing is in the relationship and go to work on it.

  2. You can’t stop infidelity by giving your spouse an ultimatum. Don’t try it. It won’t work.

  3. Create a deep connection with your spouse which will not only eliminate their desire to stray but will offer your spouse a permanent filling for the emotional void they are current filling through seductive pleasures.

  4. Remember that most marriages go through a painful process before they mature; in fact, the BEST marriages are between couples who build their relationship on the ruins of broken hearts. So hang in there!

  5. Your marriage is not determined solely by what happens, but rather by how you respond to what happens; if your spouse won’t join you, sign up for Mort Fertel’s Lone Ranger Track of the Marriage Fitness Tele Boot Camp, where you will learn how to single-handedly improve your situation and motivate your spouse to join you in the process of renewing your marriage.

  6. According to researchers, men who are unfaithful and who are sincere about transforming themselves and saving their marriage are less likely to make the same mistake again compared to someone whose track record is clean. Therefore, give your husband a chance to work on rebuilding trust with you.

  7. The deeper your connection with your spouse the more likely they’ll be motivated to “live by the rules” of a faithful marriage. Connect with your spouse!
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Should I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

Should I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

Hello, my name is Carol. Almost fifteen years ago, I married my best friend, Josh. At the time, the vows between the two of us, were the most sacred vows to me. I always thought that we would live our happily ever after, and everything would be smooth sailing. Little did I realize, that a marriage takes a lot of work, and a marriage is made up of many compromises. Looking back to the beginning of our relationship, more importantly our marriage, I was very immature. Instead of working on our marriage, I strayed from my marriage after one bad argument. Right away I realized what I was doing, and I stopped. At the time, I thought that because I stopped, I wouldn’t have to tell my husband but as time went on, I started wondering, should I tell my husband  I cheated?

Realizing What I did

As time went on, my relationship with my husband prospered. There would be many occasions where I would look back and think to myself how I could actually stray from my marriage. Not only did I grow in my thinking as a person, I also grew as a wife. There was nothing that I could possibly say that would make the situation better. I can’t believe that I didn’t think to work on whatever we were arguing about, and went somewhere else, with someone else.

A little thing like an argument would have gone away in a few hours, or maybe a day, my decision to stray from my marriage at the time would always be a tremendous source of guilt. Not only did I hurt myself, but my husband would be affected. The thought of hurting my husband made me doubt coming cleaning. I often wondered, should I tell my husband I cheated? Or should I pretend nothing happened, and continue about working to have a successful marriage.

Should I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

Needing A Change

After a while of going back and forth, I finally decided that I wasn’t able to have a fully successful marriage, if I wasn’t honest about the past. As much as I hated bringing up the past, I needed to fix the past to work on the future. I just didn’t know how.

I spoke to my friend who I told what I had done wrong, and realized that I couldn’t tell my husband what I did without enlisting the help of a professional. At first,  I was thinking of going to a local marriage counselor but after searching online, I came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Not only was I able to get successful advice on what I should do about my husband, and how to come clean in a honest way, I was able to achieve this all from the comfort of my own home.

Moving Forward

The truth hurt my husband, but he was able to see the hurt and sorrow in my eyes, and luckily he agreed on working on the future. It will take time for my husband, to one -hundred percent forgive me, but I’m lucky that he is at least giving me the chance. Thankfully, we were both able to learn the skills that we needed to have a successful marriage based on honesty and love.

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How Do I Tell My Wife I Cheated?

How Do I Tell My Wife I Cheated?

Hello, my name is Jack. Twelve years ago, I married my wife Linda. From the beginning of our marriage, it was never smooth sailing for the both of us. Even though we know that we are the most opposite people, we still tried to make our marriage work. Unfortunately, I gave into my temptations and I cheated on my wife recently. It was certainly a big mistake, but I don’t think that I can do the best that I can to work with my wife knowing that I cheated. This predicament leads me into the awful question of, how do I tell my wife I cheated?

How Do I Tell My Wife I Cheated

 

Opposites Attract

Although my wife and I are very different, I still love all of the things that make her different than me. She definitely knows how to press my buttons, but she and I both agree that our marriage is a challenge. Usually after our arguments, we would work it out, and by the morning we forgot anything ever happened. There was only a few times where we held a grudge through the afternoon.

Not to make excuses at all for what I did, but the day that I cheated on my wife, I was not myself. I had a very stressful day at work, and I thought that it would be okay to go out with my coworkers for a few cocktails after work. Usually, I am the one that goes straight home, I figured this one time I could enjoy myself with everyone else. I especially wanted to go because I always hear about crazy stories that happened during happy hour the day after.

One Too Many Drinks

One drink turned into four, and next thing I knew, I was with a woman. A woman that was not my wife! Right away, I sobered up and felt awful. How could I do such a thing to my wife?  The one time I go out, I do something so thoughtless. How selfish could I be? My wife trusted me, and within seconds all of that trust goes out the window. I messed up.

Instead of fessing up right away, I turned into someone that I wasn’t. I became angry, and I started lashing out at everyone. Not only did I embarrass my wife, I embarrassed myself, and the sanctity of my marriage. Every time my wife would ask me what was wrong, I immediately used work as an excuse. Me making an excuse just got me more worked up.

Coming Clean

After a while of feeling guilty, I finally grew tired of the guilt. I needed to do something right away. I needed to know how do I tell my wife I cheated? I was at the point where I couldn’t just blurt out what I did, I needed to get a third party involved. I didn’t want my wife to walk out on me. I needed her to know that what I did was wrong, and that I was truly sorry. After researching online, I finally came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program.

Through this program, I was able to learn the skills that I needed to properly communicate with my wife. I am not saying that my wife immediately forgave me, but through using this program, my wife was able to at least give me a chance to prove myself, and for that, I am grateful!

 

 

 

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Top 10 Marriage Saving Tips

Marriage saving tips from Mort Fertel

Marriage saving tips from Mort Fertel

  1. Instead of trying to fix problems or talk your way out of a marital impasse, create good will by implementing new relationship habits, starting with small acts of kindness.

  2. Spend time together being involved in each other’s interests; for instance, attend your spouse’s golf game or join them for their yoga class.

  3. Remember that the key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found. Therefore, educate yourself about the universal laws of relationships.

  4. Sometimes it’s not until things can’t get any worse that they get better, so don’t call it quits in your marriage until one year AFTER you have tried everything in your power to make your it work; often the turning point in a marriage is when a couple hits rock bottom.

  5. Invigorate your relationship with a daily “talk charge” – a positive verbal exchange such as a compliment or a sharing a story.

  6. Reconnect with your spouse through simple loving gestures (“touch charges”), such as the stroke of a cheek, a gentle rub of the shoulder, sharing a fork over desert, falling asleep holding hands, or stealing a kiss in the elevator.

  7. If your marriage is on the rocks, there is no one Herculean thing you can do to turn it around. To make a BIG difference, establish the right habits by doing small things consistently over an extended period of time. Pick one small habit now and start!

  8. Touch and talk every day.

  9. Instead of revisiting old wounds, move forward in your relationship in healthy, productive ways.

  10. Form the habit of thoughtful giving by buying your spouse a gift which reflects you, them, and the special connection between you.

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How Do I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

How Do I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

Hello, my name is Carol Ann. I have been married to John for the past twelve years. For the most part, my husband and I do have a good relationship but I have been keeping a secret for the past ten years. I did something wrong, and I needed help answering a burning question: How do I tell my husband I cheated?

How Do I Tell My Husband I Cheated

Bad Choices

Ten years ago, I was going through a rough time in my life, and more importantly in my marriage. Instead of handling the issues like a mature person, I let my vulnerability get the best of me and I cheated on my husband. Even though it was a one-time thing, that one time changed my life and I regret it so much.

My constant feeling of regret and hiding a secret affected me in so many ways. I always had the fact that I cheated in the back of my mind, and it made me so short with people. Anytime that I would argue with my husband, I would blow things out of proportion and walk around being paranoid all of the time. There have been several occasions that I accused my husband of cheating, when in fact I knew that he wasn’t. I was trying to mirror my life on his.

Mirroring My Issues

I know that it was wrong to constantly accuse my husband of actions that I did, but I just couldn’t help myself. I couldn’t trust anyone because I was unable to trust myself. My husband didn’t appreciate being treated the way that I was treating him, and he was one hundred percent right. Instead of admitting that I do agree with him,  I would try to play coy about it, and pretend that it is him that is the crazy one. I didn’t want him to think that I was hiding something.

After going through years of hiding, and fighting because of the way that I was acting, I finally decided enough was enough. I needed to change things about myself, and about our relationship. I owed it to my husband to be honest but I was so scared of the consequences. My husband is my best friend, and it really destroyed me knowing that what I did could and quite possibly will destroy everything that we built. My husband will be heartbroken, and after what I put him through for all of these years, he will never be able to trust me again.

Coming Clean

Even though my awful decision would cause many consequences, I knew that I needed to let my husband in on this secret. I also knew that I couldn’t do it by myself. I needed help answering, how do I tell my husband I cheated? After brainstorming all night, every night, I finally came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program.

Through this program, I was able to speak to my husband, and for the first time in years, I was able to finally be honest with my husband and myself. My husband did not handle what I did lightly, but through   Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program, we were able to gain the tools that we needed to communicate with each other in a healthier manner. Although it will take a while, I am glad that I am still able to have hope.

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My Family Hates My Wife, What Do I Do?

My Family Hates My Wife, What Do I Do?

Hello. My name is Chris, from the day that I met my now wife, my family has been against it. Granted she came into my life when things were tough between my family and I, but she did nothing wrong and she certainly wasn’t made aware of the tension between my family and I. Now, I get along with my family but my family hates my wife, what do I do?

My Family Hates My Wife What Do I Do?

Not a Welcome Member

As much as I tried hiding the fact that my family didn’t like my wife, my family always made it very clear that my wife is not a welcome family member. She is the only daughter in law so one would think my mother would look at her in a positive way. It’s one thing to not treat her like a daughter, but to treat her like an outcast is really uncalled for.

Stuck In The Middle

Every time we are at family functions, my family sticks together and ignores my wife at every chance they can get. If they do talk to her, it is most likely a one word answer or something rude. Even towards my children, they won’t refer to my wife by name. Although my children are young, eventually it will be obvious and my children noticing would not help the situation.

For many years of our relationship, my wife tried to ignore what was going on between her and my family, but after years of being treated poorly, and quite frankly, always being disrespected, my wife had enough. My wife was always under the impression that I never said anything to my parents. Her beliefs got her angry at me all of the time. What she didn’t realize is that I would always speak to my family about their behavior, and nothing ever came out of it. I was stuck in between my family, and my wife. I finally broke down and thought to myself, my family hates my wife, what do I do?

Putting My Foot Down

I was sick of the constant fighting between my family and I about them hating my wife, I was also sick of fighting with my wife about me not doing enough to alleviate the situation. Everyone was disrespecting everyone, and nothing was getting better. I resented my wife for not believing that I am standing up for her, and I resented my family for not growing up and getting over whatever issue they had with her. I needed something to change.

After going back and forth with possible solutions, I finally decided that I should show my wife that I love her, and want to work everything out. We chose to use Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to learn how to better communicate with each other, and to actually see that we both do care for each other. My wife also learned that I did care about what was going on, and that I was dedicated in finding a change.

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Trying To Change Your Wife Or Husband Won’t Help

Trying to Change Your Spouse Won't WorkSue* joined the Marriage Fitness program (the Lone Ranger Track) because her marriage was in crisis. She was committed to making serious changes but her husband Josh* wasn’t interested in being part of the process. For over 12 months she asked him to participate in some form of marriage help but he refused. Shortly after the Marriage Fitness program began, Sue learned how important it was to back off Josh.  At the same time she learned to make changes that would create a more positive atmosphere in their daily interactions. Toward the end of the Marriage Fitness program Josh heard Sue listening to a Q and A teleconference Josh asked Sue if he could ask a question. After I spent a few minutes with Josh and answering his question, Josh agreed to join Sue in the Marriage Fitness program.

Trying to change your spouse will not work.

Trying to change your spouse will not work.

Trying To Change Your Spouse Is Counterproductive

Why did Josh agree to something in a few minutes with me that Sue couldn’t inspire him to do in over 12 months?

1. For the first time in over a year Josh felt he had  OWNERSHIP of his choices.

2. The idea to participate in the Marriage Fitness program was inspired by someone OTHER than Sue.

3. Sue’s pushing was counterproductive and blocked progress. Once the pressure stopped it created a path to HEALING.

4. By resisting the desire to INSIST that her spouse join the program,  Sue was able to focus more on what she could actively do to inject  love into the marriage.

5. Sue led by EXAMPLE.  Once she showed Josh that she took ownership of her own choice to make  positive changes (no blaming, no finger pointing)  she laid the groundwork to positively impact their marriage.

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My Family Doesn’t Like My Husband, What Do I Do?

My Family Doesn’t Like My Husband, What Do I Do?

Hello, my name is Donna. I would like to share a story about an awkward situation that I went through with my husband of sixteen years. I had to ask a question that I have been avoiding for years. My family doesn’t like my husband, what do I do?

My Family Doesn't Like My Husband What Do I Do?

 

From Day One

From the day that I met my husband, my family was not thrilled with him. At first, they were very outspoken about it but after years of being married, it became like my husband doesn’t exist in their eyes. Anytime there is a family function, it is very clear that my husband doesn’t belong there. The only people that actually make an effort to make my husband feel comfortable is the extended family.

Every time I would approach my family about their disdain for my husband, they would brush me off with saying that they have their own reasons. It bothered me that my family didn’t even have the decency to let me know why they have formed their negative opinions about him.

Stuck In the Middle

Granted, my husband does have a difficult personality. He is extremely hard to please, and is most of the time preoccupied with thinking about work but besides that he does treat me well. Knowing that my husband treats me well often was overcome by me thinking how much my family is not thrilled with my husband. I became blind to the fact that I was indeed happy in my marriage, and I was so focused on outside influences affected my thinking.

Not only did I realize that my family didn’t like my husband, my children had picked up on their feelings as well. I usually am the kind of person that could find answers for everything, unfortunately, when my children asked why their grandparents didn’t like their father, I had no answer. How could I answer such a question, especially when I, myself didn’t know the real reason.

 

Not Realizing What I Had

I have to give it to my husband, he was very aware from day one that my family didn’t approve of him but he still never gave up pursuing me, and he certainly never gave up being with me. Even though he has always been a constant presence in many awkward situations, the fact that he had to swallow his pride would really get to him. He would get angry, and upset. To see him like that really bothered me, I would constantly ask myself, my family doesn’t like my husband, what do I do?

Not being able to answer my questions irked me. I wanted to so badly for everyone to get along but sometimes I was so overcome with thinking about solutions that I often neglected my husband’s feelings. After many fights about that, we decided that we should go for counseling. We were able to find Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to focus on the present and work on the outside influences affecting our marriage. We were fortunate enough to get counseling before it was too late.

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My Husband Isn’t Physically Attracted To Me

My Husband Isn’t Physically Attracted To Me

Hello, my name is Crystal. Twelve years ago, my husband and I got married. In the beginning of our relationship, and the first few years of marriage, it seemed like I was the only person that my husband wanted to be with. He was proud to spend time with me, and always made it a point to be extra affectionate towards me. All of his attention changed once we had children. I had a hard time losing weight, and getting back to my original shape. Now, my husband isn’t physically attracted to me.

Hurtful Comments

It started off with my husband making comments about the way I look, and telling me that I should look in the mirror more often, and as if the comments weren’t enough, he would find every reason to not want to be with me. In fact, he has even “joked” around by saying that if he would have met me looking like the way I do, he would never be interested in me.

The constant comments coming from my husband has really taken a toll on me, and on our marriage. I push myself extra hard to look the way that I used to, and I have been in denial about not being able to ever look the same because I am now a mother. Instead of focusing on the important things in life, I am focusing on making my husband interested in me again. I want my husband to like the way I look again, and actually make an effort to want to be with me again.

My Husband Isn't Physically Attracted To Me

Going Unnoticed

Knowing that my husband isn’t physically attracted to me really irks me, and I really think that it is for no reason. I may not be a stick figure, but I have healthy curves and I’m actually okay with the way that I look. All I have been doing to look like the way that I used to really frustrates me. It’s one thing if I only want it, but it’s not me. It’s me doing everything for my husband, and my husband still not being so into me.

Instead of speaking to my husband at first about my feelings, I would avoid talking to him, and most of the time, I would make sure to be sleeping way before he would go to sleep. I was so angry that everything that I was doing was going by unnoticed that it made me feel like my husband was the last person that I wanted to talk to.

Making a Change

After a while of being upset with my husband, I finally decided that enough was enough. I needed to figure out what my husband and I should do in our marriage. Should we end our twelve year marriage? Or should we learn how to appreciate each other again? I didn’t want to make any decisions before giving everything my best shot.

Once I approached my husband about what my feelings are, he agreed that we should get professional help. We agreed on using Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. After working on our marriage, we were finally able to appreciate each other again, and my husband was able to realize all that he missed.

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My Wife Isn’t Physically Attracted To Me

My Wife Isn’t Physically Attracted To Me

Hello, my name is Kyle. I have been married to my wife Lori for the past thirteen years. Throughout the thirteen years that we have been married, we had two children. Personality wise, my wife and I are pretty much the same. Our schedules are quite hectic, and because of that I haven’t been the best at keeping up with taking care of myself. Not only does it bother me that I have pretty much given up on taking care of myself but, my wife isn’t physically attracted to me.

How Quickly Things Change

When we first met, I was in great physical shape. The gym was my second home, and eating healthy was the only option for me. Once we got married, I devoted all of my time to Lori. I thought I was doing the right thing by being home with Lori, and being easy going about the food that she made but I guess I was wrong.

Anytime I want to be affectionate towards my wife, she makes every excuse to avoid being with me. If I would dare hold her hand, she would quickly push away. Putting my arm around wasn’t even an option because she would be gone before I could even lift my arm. Anything that I would put on, my wife would tease me about the way it fits. I know I might sound childish, but having someone that you absolutely love with all of your heart constantly making fun of how you currently look is really hurtful.

Getting the Kids Involved

Even around the kids, my wife would make sure to put me down while we are eating. It’s one thing for her to not be proud of how I look, but to have my children tell me that Mommy only wants you to drink skim milk really irks me. I don’t want my children to ever be embarrassed of the way that I look. I want them to be proud of their father, and I certainly don’t want my children to be the ones telling me what I can and can’t eat.

My Wife Isn't Physically Attracted To Me

Taking a Stand

To make my wife happy, I put myself on a diet and started going to the gym again. Instead of  her being proud that I am making steps in the right direction, she is back to complaining that I am never home. Nothing that I do is right for her. She still doesn’t want to be near me and is definitely not attracted to me anymore.

Feeling that my wife isn’t physically attracted to me really bothered me, and finally I decided to confront my wife about what I was feeling. At first, she told me that I was paranoid but after discussing my feelings with her, and giving examples to prove my case, my wife finally acknowledged that my feelings were indeed correct. We both decided that we needed to find something to rectify the situation, and after going through a bunch of possible solutions, we agreed that Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program was the best solution to help our marriage. After using the program, we were able to learn how to be proud to be with each other again.

 

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My Wife Doesn’t Spend Time With Me

My Wife Doesn’t Spend Time With Me

Hello, my name is Richard. It will be almost fourteen years since my wife Suzie and I got married. In the fourteen years that we have been married, we have three children together. I know having three children can be difficult and challenging at times, especially when they are all very close in age. Even though my wife manages to work, and be a great mother, I still have one issue: My wife doesn’t spend time with me.

Too Busy For Me

Even though I know my wife has a lot on her plate with dealing with the children and managing her career, I am just bothered by my wife choosing to spend time with her friends instead of her husband on the few moments she does have off. Suzie is so busy with her friends that when it is just her and I home, she manages to be on the phone the whole time.

I understand that my wife does need to have a separate life from everything that she has on her plate, but all I am asking is, that my wife actually wants to hang out with me. I’m not a bad guy and there is no reason for her to ignore me and not want to spend time with me. It seems that whatever I try to do to get her to want to spend time with me doesn’t work. I tried giving her flowers, and asking her on a date. Most people would think that would work, unfortunately my wife had plans. Plans that don’t include me.

My Wife Doesn't Spend Time With Me

Great Mother, Distant Wife

When my wife is with my children, she dedicates all of her time to them. Though it is so nice to see what a good mother she is, it hurts me that during the time we all spend as a family, she makes it awkward and will do anything to not include me in family activities. My children are still on the younger side but I’m afraid that when they are older, they will look at me and think that their father is not really interested in their lives when in fact I am. I also don’t want my children to think that it is normal for parents to avoid each other at all costs.

There has been so many times where I asked my wife why she doesn’t spend time with me. Every time I was met with a different answer. Whether it was the “I’m tired” excuse or the “You’re crazy” answer, I never really got any satisfactory answers from Suzie. It was all about brushing me away and she certainly mastered that skill. I needed something to change fast. I was tired of what was going on, and I was done with the excuses.

Finding A Change

Since my wife and I have been married, I have been trying to spend quality time with the woman that I married. After going through different options, I finally decided that marriage counseling was the best way to go. I wasn’t proud that my wife doesn’t spend time with me. I wanted to fix that, and fortunately for us, we were able to once we found Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to find successful ways to work on our marriage, and spend time with each other.

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My Husband Flirts With My Friends

My Husband Flirts With My Friends

Hello, my name is Carly. I have been married to my husband John Paul for the past ten years. Throughout our marriage, we have certainly had many ups and downs, but for the most part, we worked on ways to move forward in our marriage. There is only one thing that I am not able to get off of my mind: My husband flirts with my friends.

Ladies Man

I know my husband is a really outgoing guy. In fact, if someone would describe the both of us, I would definitely be the more reserved person.  Growing up, my husband was always the center of attention and some would call him a “ladies man”. His personality was really what attracted to me him in the beginning. I knew what I was getting into when I married him but I thought he would switch from being a ladies man, to being my man. Unfortunately that didn’t happen.

Focusing on Me

Through the years, I have always had insecurity issues so having my husband flirt with my friends on a regular basis is not so comforting. Every time my husband and I are out with friends, we usually come home from the night with me upset at my husband and upset that my friends think it is okay to encourage my husband to flirt with them.

My Husband Flirts With My Friends

To keep my husband’s attention on me, I tried everything. I started off by having several conversations with my husband about my feelings about him flirting with my friends. Each conversation ended up with him saying that I was exaggerating, and using him being outgoing as being flirty. I tried speaking to my friends about my feelings, and each time they would say that it was all out of fun, and that they will try to stop the flirting. A week later, that conversation was definitely forgotten. I tried convincing my husband that the times we do go out, it should be the two of us but that lasted one or two times. I tried working on my looks, and changing the way that I dress. Nothing worked.

Needing a Solution

After feeling really fed up with my husband flirting, and not getting anywhere with it, I needed to find something that would fix our marriage. I didn’t want to always be the wife that mopes in the corner because my husband is getting all of the attention, and that he is flirting with other ladies. I wanted my husband to be proud to be with his wife, and not feel the need to flirt with other people. I finally came with the idea of marriage counseling.

At first, my husband thought that I was crazy for suggesting marriage counseling but after a while of convincing, my husband saw that we really needed to work on our marriage. I needed to get over  the fact that my husband flirts with my friends. My husband and I decided that Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program was the answer to our problems. Through this program, we were able to learn how to communicate more efficiently, and my husband was able to differentiate between being outgoing and flirtatious.

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How To Make My Husband Tell Me The Truth

How To Make My Husband Tell Me The Truth

Hello, my name is Ann Marie. Thirty two years ago, my husband Mike and I got married. Throughout all of our years of marriage, we have certainly had our fair share of adversities. One of the most difficult things that we had gone through was bankruptcy. Not only was it a wakeup call for the both of us to quit spending what we don’t have, it was a huge surprise to me. My husband throughout all of our marriage, never told me that we were having financial difficulties. He would always lead me to believe that we were very comfortable. I would like to share with you what happened the day that I found out we were living a lie. It made me wonder how to make my husband tell me the truth.

My husband and I lived the high life for most of our marriage. Whatever I wanted, I got. Our vacations were always the best vacations, our clothing was always the newest designs, and our cars were the cars that everyone complimented. As much as it sounds superficial, we always stressed to our children that it isn’t money that is important. We always focused on love and respect, it was just an extra plus to have money.

Caught in a Lie

The day that I found out that our marriage that we put so much trust, love and respect into, included a severe amount of debt, instead of what I once thought was “extra” money was a day that I will never forget. My children were served with papers stating how much debt we were really in. It is one thing for me to be shocked about the papers that were delivered to us, but to have my children witness their parents living a lie destroyed me.

I had so many questions going through my mind. Why wouldn’t my husband ever tell me that we really didn’t have the money that we were spending? Why would my husband keep on spending money that he certainly knew that he didn’t have? If my husband lied about this, what else is he lying about? How do I explain to my children that it wasn’t me that lied to them without throwing my husband under the bus? Where do I go from here? So many questions, and I really had no idea how to even begin answering them.

How To Make My Husband Tell Me The Truth

Excuses, Excuses

When I approached my husband about what had happened, instead of coming clean and telling me that we were in financial trouble, he made excuse after excuse claiming that those papers were a mistake, and that he would handle it right away. Usually, I would believe my husband and his excuses but this time, for some strange reason I knew that my husband was lying to me. He had been lying to me all along, and he didn’t know how to do anything without lying to me.

Knowing that my husband had been lying to me for all of these years, and he had been lying to our children as well, made me sick to my stomach. What he didn’t realize is that I would not be angry if we didn’t have the money, I felt so fortunate with my family that money was an extra bonus. I was angry that he got us into this mess knowingly.

Searching for a Solution

I needed something to be done to resolve everything that had resulted from Mike’s lies. I needed to answer how to make my husband tell me the truth. After going back and forth with solutions, my husband and I decided that Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program was the best option. Using this program, we were able to learn how to be honest and have a healthy line of communication between us.

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My Marriage Is Heading For A Divorce

My Marriage is Heading for a Divorce

Hello, my name is Carolyn. For the past few years, my husband Rick and I have been experiencing rough patch after rough patch in our marriage. We can’t seem to get out of the funk and I am afraid that my marriage is heading for a divorce.

Not So Happily Ever After

When my husband and I got married, it seemed like I met my Prince and we would live happily ever after. Nothing that my husband did would bother me, and to me, he was perfect. The problem was that it wasn’t perfect. In fact it was far from perfect, I just wasn’t aware of it. It seems that everyone else was aware of my marital problems except me.

What my husband hid from me for years, was that he was having an affair for the majority of our marriage. He had an affair from the beginning and kept it a secret from the beginning as well. The day that I found out that he had an affair with multiple women, I of course didn’t believe it. How in the world would my husband of so many years find women outside of our marriage?  What did I do I do that my husband felt that he should find someone else? How could my husband live with knowing that I had no idea about what he was doing? Why me?

My Marriage Is Heading For a Divorce

Lots of Questions…No answers…

I had so many questions going through my mind. My nights were full of pacing back and forth trying to find at least one answer and I was left with nothing. I didn’t know what to do with my husband. I wanted so much to leave him after what he did but I just couldn’t. For some crazy reason, I loved my husband too much to really come to the reality that he would pursue other women. I felt bad for my husband. I actually believed him when he said that he couldn’t help it, and that he was sorry.

It was extra hard because everyone knew what was going on throughout my marriage except me. Finding someone to trust was extremely difficult for me. I just felt that there was nowhere to turn, and I should just stay in this marriage and forgive my husband. I figured the last twenty or so years, I have been embarrassed so I just pretended I didn’t know what was going on and stuck with the marriage.

Needing a Solution…Quick

Even though I forgave my husband, I certainly didn’t forget what he did. I also couldn’t understand why he was so public about his affairs to people and why he thought it would be okay to take the women to places that we as a married couple, so frequently visited. I accepted my husband’s apology, but I couldn’t help but feel sorry for both him and myself. I felt bad for him because he obviously had many other issues that he was trying to mask, and for me because I was in this alone. I have been alone for all of these years, and I had no idea.

I couldn’t get over the feeling of being alone, being lied to, and being embarrassed. After fighting for quite a while, I realized that my marriage is heading for divorce. I needed something to be done, and it had to be quick. After searching the internet for days, we finally compromised on using Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, my husband and I were able to work through our many differences all from the comfort of our own home.

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My Husband Doesn’t Come Near Me

My Husband Doesn’t Come Near Me

Hello, my name is Crystal. My husband and I have been married for quite a few years, and are fortunate enough to have three beautiful children. After each kid was born, my body seemed to take on different shapes. Although I felt most beautiful during each pregnancy, I felt awful after I gave birth. It seemed that no matter how hard I tried to get back to where I was when my husband and I first met, nothing would work. The problem is that my husband thought the same about my appearance. It got to the point where I would wonder why my husband doesn’t come near me.

My Husband Doesn't Come Near Me

Losing My Body

After my third child, I made sure to hit the gym as soon as my doctor gave me the clearance. Unfortunately, years after I got that “clearance” I still didn’t look or feel the same. Obviously being pregnant was worth it, and I don’t have a single regret about having each of my children. It just bothers me that my husband doesn’t look at me the same way.

Not Feeling Beautiful

Although I am not as fit as I once was, I try very hard to dress in a flattering way. I used to never wear makeup or heels, now to try to get my husband’s attention I wear heels all of the time and I never leave the house without makeup on. It seems that even the way I look doesn’t really interest my husband. It seems that I am desperate for attention, and most cases I am. I am desperate for attention coming from my husband. I miss him being excited to see me when he came home from work, and I certainly miss him being proud to “show me off” to his friends. Now I feel like one of his pals, and that really irks me.

Yes, it has been years since our last kid was born but it is not like I sit back and expect to look beautiful. I am always so motivated to work on myself both on the inside and outside. I try to exude confidence but even I can tell that I am fooling myself. Instead of being the shy one in the bunch, I make it a point to be the extra outgoing one so that my husband could notice me. It just seems that in most cases he either doesn’t care about noticing me, or doesn’t want to notice me. Either way, something needs to change.

Finally Making Changes

After trying to make changes for years and still feeling like we are in square one, I finally decided that it would be best to reignite our passion for each other by using Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. I needed to answer why my husband doesn’t come near me. To my surprise, my husband happily obliged and participated in using the Marriage Fitness program with me. My husband now is able to look at me like the person he originally married, and he now wants to spend more time with me.

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Christian Marriage Counseling In Louisiana

Christian Marriage Counseling in Louisiana

Hello, my name is Linda. I would like to share with you a story about why my husband and I searched for Christian Marriage Counseling in Louisiana. In addition, I would also like to share what happened after that search.

My husband and I have been married for almost thirty two years. In the thirty two years of our marriage, we had experienced many ups and downs. In most cases, we were able to work through it, either as a team or with one of us supporting the other; we managed to get through it. We were able to move forward as husband and wife.

Recently, my husband and I had an investment flop which caused us to lose a lot of money. Unfortunately it was money that we couldn’t afford to lose. Both my husband and I are extremely hard workers, and we are cautious of spending money. Having an investment crumble before our eyes was devastating for my husband and I.

Bad Investment

Instead of working through our monetary loss, my husband wasn’t able to get back to his normal self. He started to become easily agitated, and miserable to be around. It seemed like he became controlling overnight. He went from being careful about using electricity, to going crazy if I would leave the light on for a second too long. Everything that I would do, my husband would have some sort of snarky remark about it.

My husband became desperate for money. He felt that working was not enough, so he would do crazy things to get money. All of his “prized possessions” were sold, and it still wasn’t enough. He would make sure to look up all of these get rich quick schemes on a daily basis. Nothing was good enough for him. Since he couldn’t handle all of the money that we lost, and was unable to make extra money, he would pressure me to work two other jobs.

Blaming Me

Besides my husband being upset that we lost money, he started to blame me for the investment going bad. It somehow was my fault that the company that we invested money in was a scam. What he didn’t remember is that it wasn’t me that ever mentioned doing the investment. In actuality, it was him that approached me about it. As his wife, and as someone who trusted my husband’s decisions, I obliged.

I definitely didn’t want to add fuel to the fire by reminding my husband about his mistake, but I wanted my husband’s constant attitude with me to be put to rest. I was not comfortable with the way that he was constantly treating me, and being blamed for every tiny thing was not sitting well with me. Nothing that I did was good enough, and everything was my fault.

Needing a Change

As time went on, my husband’s attitude towards me got worse and I was no longer able to stay quiet. Me standing up for myself, led to many fights with my husband. It eventually got to the point where we were not able to have a normal conversation without fighting. We went from having a happy marriage to not being able to stand each other all because of a big mistake.

The nonstop fighting was getting the best of my husband and I, and something needed to change. After trying to work on solutions with my husband, we finally agreed on Christian Marriage Counseling in Louisiana. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we were able to learn how to better communicate with each other, and to not blame each other for petty things.

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Christian Marriage Counseling In Delaware

Christian Marriage Counseling in Delaware

Hello, my name is Todd. I would like to share with you a story about why my wife and I sought out Christian Marriage Counseling in Delaware, and in addition, we would like to let you know what happened after that search.

It will be almost twenty years since my wife and I got married. Before getting married, my wife and I knew each other as children. We actually lived across the street from each other for most of our childhood. My wife singlehandedly knew me more than anyone else, and I was under the impression that I knew my wife more than anyone else.

From Kids to Spouses

Knowing that I married my best friend was all I needed. What I didn’t need is that my in laws and my parents hated each other. At first my wife and I kept the animosity between our families separate from our marriage. We would make sure to not to listen to what the other side was saying, and we certainly knew not to take sides. At times, we felt like the only “Adults” in the situation.

As the years passed, my wife slowly started backing away from my family. Instead of being the warm person that she was, she would make up every excuse why she couldn’t see them, or speak to them for that matter. At first, I believed her excuses but eventually it was brought to my attention that my wife no longer could hide her feelings towards my family.

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Outside Influences

Finding out my wife’s feelings really devastated me. For all of the years that we have been married, I never looked at my in laws in a negative light and I certainly believed that my wife felt the same. To know that she was hiding her feelings for so long, without letting me know really bothered me. I also was disappointed that she even took sides without knowing both sides of the story.

I wanted so badly to speak to my wife about what I was feeling but I was so confused about what I was feeling. Was I upset that she hated my family? Was I upset that she pretended she liked my family for so long? Was I mad that she even took sides? Did she ever let our children in on her feelings without me knowing? So many questions went through my mind I didn’t know what to do. I was terrified knowing that I had to approach my wife about what was going on in my head.

Needing a Change

 

The day came to finally approach my wife, I thought it was going to be a simple conversation but little did I know that it would turn into a blowout fight where she would be screaming at me about how awful my parents are. The lady that was screaming at me and saying hurtful things to me was not the lady that I married, and it certainly wasn’t the lady that I have known since we were kids. This lady was mean and disgusting and there was no way that I wanted to be associated with someone like that.

For weeks after I approached my wife, things were very different. I couldn’t look at her the way I used to, and I certainly didn’t want to hear anything that she had to say. I knew something had to change. For all we knew, the tension was visible to our children and there was no way that I would be okay with that. After not being able to alleviate the tension, my wife and I decided that it would be best to look for Christian Marriage Counseling in Delaware. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Using that program, we were able to learn how to communicate in a healthier way, and we learned how to not let outside influences affect our marriage.

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Christian Marriage Counseling In Texas

Christian Marriage Counseling in Texas

Hello, my name is Tim. I would like to share with you a story about why my wife and I sought out Christian Marriage Counseling in Texas, and what happened after that search.

My wife Crystal and I will be married for twenty nine years in a few months. Throughout these twenty nine years, we have certainly experienced our fair share of ups and downs. In other words, for the twenty nine years that we have been married, it has never been smooth. One of us was always mad at the other for some reason or another.

Opposites Attract?

Being that Crystal and I are very different people, it was expected for the both of us to differ in many things. At first it was a challenge for us to find a common ground, but as time went on, our patience slowly disappeared. We used to be able to compromise but quite a while now we have not been able to compromise on anything. Even something like what we are eating for dinner was an argument.

Not only did we argue, but we rarely resolved the issue that we were arguing about in the first place. The lack of working something out just carried over into the next argument, by our third argument we were so busy saying hurtful things to each other that we forgot what we were arguing about. Any major issue that we have experienced in the past was brought up and eventually used against the other person.

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Out of Spite

Instead of wanting to work things out in a healthy way, my wife and I would argue it out, then enjoy each other’s company and then go back to arguing again. As much as I wanted to enjoy my wife’s company, I found myself at times thinking of what I can say that would actually affect her, and make her realize that I’m right and she is wrong. Actually, I would say the same thinking would be for my wife as well.

As time went on, our arguments went from heated discussions and yelling, to actually leaving the house for a few days without any contact in the meantime. As much as we tried to keep our fighting from our grown children, it came to a point where it was obvious that we just couldn’t be in the same room as each other for more than a few minutes. Our family situation had become quite sad, and both my wife and I had no idea why it went from bad to worse.

Learning to Compromise

After being approached by all three of our children separately, we decided that our marriage needed a change. We needed to work something out for the sake of our children. Whether it was going our separate ways or working our issues out, something needed to be done immediately. We could not afford another fight, and we certainly did not want our children to feel like they are caught in the middle of a feud between both parents.

Since my wife and I were unable to reach a compromise by ourselves, the idea of counseling was suggested to us. Shockingly, we both agreed on the idea and started out our quest for help by searching for Christian Marriage Counseling in Texas. From that search, we were able to come across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Using this program, we gained the skills that we needed to communicate in a more effective way with each other, and learned how to compromise again.

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Christian Marriage Counseling In Pennsylvania

Christian Marriage Counseling In Pennsylvania

Hello, my name is Lauren. I would like to share a story with you about why my husband and I searched for Christian Marriage Counseling in Pennsylvania. Here is what happened, and what happened after seeking help for our marriage.

When I got married to my husband, Rob, I thought that no matter what, we would get through any challenge that was thrown to us. In most instances, we were able to get through a lot together. We went through years and years of infertility, after years of going to the doctor on a regular basis, we were blessed with twins. Once the twins were born, all of our years of suffering from infertility, were forgotten. I was just so happy that I finally got blessed with two healthy children.

A Family of Four

In my eyes, once our children were born, everything was perfect. I had my husband, two healthy children that I was able to carry full-term, all was good in my world. Unfortunately, the same feelings that I had did not apply to my husband. Instead of basking in the excitement of our new family, my husband would constantly get jealous that I was paying attention to the babies instead of him.

At first when my husband would make snippy remarks when I would be playing with our twins, I wouldn’t take his remarks seriously. I just laughed it off, and went about playing with our children. As time went by, I noticed that he would make more comments and at times, he would complain to me that I am always playing with our children. I was so confused why a grown man would actually feel the need to compete with two little babies. Especially, two little babies that we waited years and years for.

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Wanting Attention

I didn’t want to admit that my husband was not adapting well to the new family, and I certainly did not want to believe that he felt that I was neglecting him. After speaking about the growing tension, my husband acknowledged that it was silly to be jealous of his own children, but because it was just us for so long, he missed that time with me.

In a weird way, I understood what my husband was feeling but I kept thinking that it was ridiculous. I also didn’t want the twins to ever sense jealousy coming from their own flesh and blood. I tried to appease my husband and dedicate more time to him but nothing that I would do, would be okay for my husband. He still found plenty of things to complain about.

Needing a Change

After growing increasingly frustrated with my husband acting like a baby, and him not being happy with anything, the both of us were at a standstill in our relationship. We were not able to get our feelings across without yelling at each other. Luckily, we both realized that the people that we have become is not who we really are. In all of the years that we were married, we rarely fought. To not be able to communicate in a healthy way really disturbed the both of us.

My husband and I agreed that something needed to be done. Something serious needed to be done fast. Since we were new to the idea of needing help in our marriage, we decided to look for Christian Marriage Counseling in Pennsylvania. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Using that program, we were able to gain the tools that we needed to make our marriage work again.

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Analysis Paralysis: Overthinking Marriage Counseling

Do you think a lot about your marriage? Is that an understatement? Is OBSESS more like it?

If you have marriage problems, you probably spend a lot of time and energy THINKING about your circumstances. You’ve probably analyzed your spouse, your marriage, and what happened to your relationship from every possible angle.

And the chances are good that others have weighed-in on your situation too. Have you discussed your problems with a friend, a family member, or a counselor?

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An astute analysis of your relationship can be helpful. It sometimes leads to problem-solving ideas that work.

Talking about your situation can be helpful too. Most people find it therapeutic.

But sometimes the problem with thinking and talking about your marriage so much is that it becomes a substitute for DOING SOMETHING. Analyzing your marriage can be productive, but if you want change, there’s nothing like taking ACTION.

I once did a series of private phone sessions for someone who had been in therapy for over a year. In our first session, I asked what changes she and her husband implemented since beginning therapy. She said, “Well, no real changes. But I understand our problems much better.”

I call that “analysis paralysis.”

The great philosopher Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” This is very true. But the unlived life is not worth examining!

THOUGHT and ACTION are like husband and wife. If you’re missing one, you can’t have a marriage.

Rigorous thinking gives rise to intelligent action. And action gives critical feedback for further thought. Ultimately, it’s the combination of the two that leads to clarity and a changed marriage.

Love is articulated in the vocabulary of ACTION. New thoughts and new words are useful when they inspire you to DEMONSTRATE new behavior.

If you’re ready to think differently about your marriage and act in a way that will create demonstrative change in your relationship, register for the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. It’s a 7-week program.

The Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp will provoke a whole new way of THINKING about your marriage, AND, it will inspire you and guide you to new ACTIONS that will transform your relationship. Are you ready for that? If you said “yes,” you can get more information and details by visiting:

www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp.asp

If you and your spouse are ready to work on your marriage TOGETHER, then register for the Duo Track. Otherwise, you want the Lone Ranger Track, where you’ll learn how to inspire your spouse to join you in an effort to renew your marriage. For more info about either the Duo Track or the Lone Ranger Track, go to:

www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp.asp

Are you concerned about the cost of flights and transportation? Don’t worry about it. This is a TELE experience. You do the entire program from the comfort of your home (or office). All you need is a telephone and a CD player. For details about how this works, go to:

www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp.asp

If you can’t wait until the next boot camp begins or if you don’t have 7 weeks to turn things around, then order…

MARRIAGE FITNESS HOME-FLEX

A 9-Phase interactive multi-sensory relationship-changing self-guided system that gives you everything you need to transform your marriage. And the best news is… you get it all tomorrow! For more information or to order, go to:

www.MortFertel.com/Home-Flex.asp

If you need help with your marriage, at the very least get yourself the MARRIAGE FITNESS AUDIO LEARNING PROGRAM. It’s a 5 CD starter/budget program that you’ll find to be an invaluable guide to renewing your marriage. For more info or to order, go to:

www.MortFertel.com/Audio-Program.asp

Lastly, and I mean this, if you need marriage help but prefer to seek it elsewhere, feel free to ask me and I’d be happy to refer you to other competent sources. This is not about me. It’s about YOUR MARRIAGE. And if you’re reading this, the chances are very good that you need some external guidance. It’s EXTREMELY RARE for a couple to successfully work through their marital problems by themselves. You need help! Take ACTION to get it. If you want me to help you, go here:

www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp.asp

If I can refer you to someone else, let me know.

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Christian Marriage Counseling In Iowa

Christian Marriage Counseling In Iowa

Hello, my name is Marcus. I would like to share with you a story about why my wife and I searched for Christian Marriage Counseling in Iowa and what happened afterwards.

My wife Carol Anne and I got married almost thirty two years ago. Throughout our marriage, we have certainly experienced many ups and downs. In most cases, Carol Anne and I were a team and managed to overcome adversity together. If something was bothering one of us, we would not hesitate to let the other know what we are feeling and together we would work through whatever it was that was the issue.

Losing Pounds, Gaining Attitude

For most of our marriage, my wife had a lot of weight issues. I never had a problem with her being overweight, and I loved everything about her. After struggling with many insecurities, my wife finally was able to control her weight, and lost about one hundred pounds. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the way that she looked and her now found confidence but what I didn’t love is the attitude that came with the new look.

My wife went from being a homebody and spending all of her free time with my children and I to always wanting to go out, just never with me. Her outfits were getting shorter and shorter, and she absolutely loved the new attention that she was getting from men. It seemed like Carol Anne was trying to make up for lost time and reliving the years that she felt that she missed. I was certainly proud of her but I didn’t think the idea that my wife was flirting with other men was okay.

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Increasing Tension

Besides the flirting, my wife would think it was funny to make sure I felt bad about whatever I ate. Everything that I chose to eat was disgusting to her, and the amount of calories that I chose to have bothered her. Instead of being nice about wanting me to change my eating habits, she would call me all sorts of names to make me feel bad. Carol Anne would also put down the kids and make them feel guilty about eating anything. Dinner time became a meal full of tension, and as time went by the tension grew more and more.

Every time I would approach my wife about changing her attitude, instead of doing what she used to and was willing to work things out with me, she blew me off and told me how overly sensitive I was being. The feeling of being shut down did not sit well with me, and after feeling that way a bunch of times, I finally shut down. I began not to care what my wife did or say, and truthfully, I lost a lot of respect for my wife.

Needing a Change

After losing respect for my wife, and not being able to appreciate all of the positive attributes that she has, I decided that it would be best if we go for marital counseling. Shockingly, once I approached my wife about going for counseling, she actually agreed. Together, we searched for Christian Marriage Counseling in Iowa. From that search, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Using that program, my wife and I were able to regain respect for each other and learned how to appreciate each other again without always looking at the negatives.

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My Husband Spends Too Much Money

My name is Amanda and my husband spends too much money.

Troy and I haven’t been married long, so there are still a lot of things that we need to figure out… especially how to save money and plan for our future.

That’s hard to do when you’re husbands spends too much of the money he brings home.

If this sounds like a situation that you’re facing, please keep reading my story to learn how my husband broke his bad habit and saved our marriage. Hopefully you’ll be able to find some inspiration that will help you with your marriage issues.

Money Would Come & Go in the Blink of an Eye

When Troy and I first started dating a few short years ago, he’d spare no expense in trying to impress me. I didn’t think much about at first, so it wasn’t until we finally got married that I realized how much of an issue it truly was.

Troy is a big movie guy, so he collects a lot of memorabilia, and posters. Before he met me, he experimented with making movies of his own, and it was something he slowly got back into after we married.

When he was showing me cameras and other equipment with four and five figure price tags, I should have taken that as a sign of trouble that said my husband spends too much money.

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I didn’t want to seem like I didn’t support his interests, so I said nothing. Our house started getting cluttered with cameras and a bunch of other gear I didn’t recognize, but I still kept quiet.

I felt like it wasn’t my place to say anything because our bills were getting paid and we still had food on the table, but there was always very little left after Troy would buy new equipment that he claimed he needed.

He did slow down a little when I became pregnant but, after Brianna was born, Troy fell right back into his old habits.

Didn’t he realize that he had new marital responsibilities now? Didn’t he realize that a lot of what he was spending would be better used for making sure our family was secure for the future?

Troy’s spending on his hobby didn’t slow down, even with the added expense of a baby. The same amount of money was being stretched much further.

I would voice my concerns over whether or not bills would be paid and his response was always “don’t worry about it”.

I wanted to save for a home, make sure Brianna was taken care of, and have something set aside in case of emergency, but Troy always downplayed whatever I had to say on those issues.

How could I make him see that times have changed? What did I need to do to show my husband that he spends too much?

There Was Something Else At Work Here

At first, I thought the answer might have been in financial counseling. I figured that we could avoid the financial problems in marriage if I figured out a way for us to better manage our money.

It was only after doing a lot of searching that I realized there was another issue at work here.

Troy and I didn’t communicate enough.

I think my husband spends too much and, when I bring it up, he dismisses me. Instead of pressing harder or trying a different approach, I would just let it go and quietly stress about money.

When I realized that, I stopped searching for financial counseling and started looking for marriage counseling. What I found was an alternative to marriage counseling that emphasized why communication with your spouse is important, and I used the methods I learned to get through to Troy.

I told him about how I worried that his spending might leave with us without money when we really needed it. I told him about how I was uncertain about our future and I felt like it wasn’t something he really gave much thought or care to.

I told him that I didn’t want to feel like I was alone in helping our family succeed while he went off to do whatever he wanted. I wasn’t sure any of that would work, but it was like something changed in him.

Troy admitted that he was so wrapped up in his hobby that he didn’t think about much else. He told me how much he loved me and Brianna. I knew all of that, but I needed him to say it and, more importantly, show it.

He showed me that respect by selling a lot of his excess equipment and items and putting some serious effort into helping set up savings account for all of our benefit. I finally had peace of mind knowing that my daughter and I had someone we could depend on in our lives.

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