If bad marriage habits are taking the romance out of your relationship, it’s time to take notice and take action. The fact of the matter is that lasting relationships are not born; they are built. And while most marriages start off on solid ground, over time that foundation can begin to shake. The culprit: bad marital habits.
Whether one or both spouses have begun to slack off, typical poor habits in a marriage include: being forgetful, inconsiderate, unsupportive, uncommunicative, or simply being lazy. The good news is that with concerted effort and some small but consistent actions, good marital habits are just as easy to build up as bad habits are to break.
The key to saving your marriage from the grips of negative habits is to put into place a system of positive, healthy relationship habits which you and your spouse practice on a daily or weekly basis. Every thoughtful act, kind loving word, or heartfelt gesture can go a long way in shifting the momentum of your marriage and putting you on the fast track to relationship success.
Over time, marriage problems are bound to occur as bad habits inevitably creep up. Fortunately, by becoming aware of your own poor relationship habits, there are concrete actions you can take to reverse the tide and put your marriage back on the love boat.
So what are some of the positive actions you should be spending your time and energy on in order to save your marriage? The key to couple success, contrary to popular belief, is not communication or problem-solving. Rather, the key to a long and lasting married life is CONNECTION. If you and your spouse can connect deeply and personally on a regular basis, you will be injecting love and life back into your ailing relationship. In fact, you will probably remember what made you fall in love with each other in the first place!
Here are some tips on how to break destructive marriage patterns and ‘make love’ through positive actions which will strengthen your relationship and ensure marital bliss for years to come:
- Go on a weekly ‘date night,’ during which you do NOT speak about the kids, the bills, or the in-laws
- Steal a romantic kiss in the elevator
- Share a spoon over your favorite desert
- Fall asleep holding hands
- Give your spouse your undivided attention as they relay the events of his/her day
- Support your spouse’s interests by showing up to their next soccer game or surprising them with a gift certificate to their favorite bookstore
- Volunteer together
- Try something new together – a new recipe, a new restaurant, skydiving, or ballroom dancing
Doing meaningful things together and for each other boosts positive feelings, infuses positive energy, and increases the well-being of a marriage. In turn, couples who are connected feel happier, more positive about the future, and more inspired to continue the new cycle of healthy relationship habits.
Marriage help begins at home, so start today by replacing your old habits with new positive actions which will create the building blocks for a strong and enduring marital foundation.