Here is a question I get all the time. “Did marriage counseling work for you?”
The effectiveness of therapy is a cause of great concern among couples. So many people are hesitant to accept help because they fear the answer to this question. They are apprehensive about what to expect. What Do You Talk About in Premarital Counseling?
They wonder:
- “How does marriage counseling work?”
- “Is premarital therapy effective?”
- “Will I have to delve into my past pain?”
- “I don’t want to talk about how I feel!”
- “What if my spouse won’t come to counseling with me? Can I save my marriage alone?”
- “We have too many problems!”
- “What if we fail?”
So they come to me, uncertain, desperate for change but afraid of what that change could mean.
My name is John and I am a guest blogger on Mort’s site. I can tell you that these couples come to me because I’ve been there, too.
“Did marriage counseling work for you, John?”
Keep reading to find out.
Our Story
My wife and I stared our married life as two souls madly in love.
We did everything together. We stayed up late talking about anything. We bought meaningful gifts for each other. We felt completely and utterly connected.
When we found out we were going to have a son, we were ecstatic. We were finally going to be a family.
Then, the unthinkable happened. Our son passed away when he was just a week old. We had newborn twin daughters soon after, but both of them also died early.
You can imagine what three tragic losses can do for a marriage. My wife because emotionally distant and depressed as I lost myself in my work.
The unity and passion we once had for each other disappeared. We stopped talking. We grew angry. We screamed at each other. We ignored each other.
Yet somewhere, in the midst of all the pain, we resolved to do everything possible not to give up on each other.
We tried conflict-resolution exercises. We practiced listening techniques. We turned to resources and books for advice. We even laid our problems at the feet of a trusted therapist.
“Did marriage counseling work for you, John?”
No. Nothing worked. We left the office feeling worse than before. The world seemed so bleak and hopeless.
Just as we were about to give up forever, we had a revelation.
Instead of arguing over our problems, we decided to set them aside. Instead of trying to discuss out way through the pain, we focused on reconnecting. We infused positivity back into our relationship. We practiced healthy habits.
Soon, we had returned to the early days of our marriage. The problems gradually dissipated. The wounds healed.
I now have five beautiful children.
Years – and plenty of research – later, I decided to share what we learned with other hurting couples.
I gathered what I learned into a revolutionary marriage-building program called Marriage Fitness. It’s now available to you.
Marriage Fitness – The Counseling Alternative
Whenever someone wonders, “John. Did marriage counseling work for you?” I tell them my story and then introduce them to Marriage Fitness.
Marriage Fitness will challenge everything you think you know about couples’ therapy.
What’s the Marriage Fitness difference?
With Marriage Fitness, you learn how to reinforce your relationship by neutralizing common marriage problems and instituting positive habits. You overcome past hurt by first reconciling with your spouse and changing your own behavior.
With Marriage Fitness, you learn how to:
- Overcome the hurt caused by loss or illness
- Defeat workaholism
- Deal with depression
- End patterns of denial
- Cope with separation
- Stop divorce
- Experience the excitement of new love again
Marriage Fitness also helps couples struggling with issues like:
- Infidelity in a marriage
- Emotional cheating
- Destructive behavior
- Online addiction
- Alcoholism
- Drug abuse
- Control
- Betrayal
- Boredom
- Flirting
And more!
“That’s great, John, but does it work?”
Absolutely. Marriage Fitness has helped thousands of couples to recover, survive and thrive.
You can save your marriage, too, even if it seems completely impossible – with Marriage Fitness.
Try my free marriage e-course, “7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage.”
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