Does Marriage Counseling Really Work?

Hi, my name is Joshua. As a guest blogger for the Marriage Counseling Blog, I wanted to lend my opinion on whether or not marriage counseling works. When a couple comes together they have the challenge of blending two personalities into a working relationship. At times there are rough spots that come up that challenge the love that they have for each other. In some cases the challenges force a wedge into the relationship and drive the two people apart. In an effort to help the relationship some couples will reach out and ask for marriage counseling. It is during the marriage counseling process that people ask the question, “Does marriage counseling really work?”

The Answer

The question of does marriage counseling really work is one that demands an answer. Everything that the couple is seeking to happen with their marriage depends on the answer. In order for marriage counseling to really work there has to be effort from at least one person. For instance, if a couple sits before the counselor and listens intently, then they go home and no one of them practices what the counselor has suggested the counseling session may not work. As long as one person is unwilling to change, then there is still hope for reconciliation. There really needs to be effort from at least one person to make counseling beneficial to the marriage.

Communication in Your Marriage

The challenges that married couples face are issues that they can work through together. Marriage counseling is the process of helping two people work through differences that come between them and bringing them to the point that they realize marriage takes work to make it successful. One of the biggest obstacles for two people to overcome is the issue of communication. In every case the blending of two personalities into one harmonious relationship takes effort. The two people must communicate effectively in order to function correctly. When a husband fails time after time to inform his spouse about the state of the finances; there is the potential for an argument about money. The wife may feel left out because she never sees where the money goes and husband may not want to burden her with bad news of a shortage of funds. Good clear communication would have alleviated the problem by allowing each person to share concerns. By knowing how the other feels about certain things can help the couple work through the issue together and solve the problem.

The issue of does marriage counseling really work can also be understood from the point of view of both the couplet and the counselor. The couple comes to the first session with preconceived ideas and a certain skepticism that the methods of the counselor will not work. In order for the couple to see results they must be willing to try each assignment. From the viewpoint of the counselor he must be ready for when the couple arrives. If the counselor is not ready with plans for each session, then each session will end in failure. The couple will begin to get discouraged and may even quite the counseling altogether.

Does Marriage Counseling Work? It’s up to you!

The success of marriage counseling depends greatly on both parties working together for a mutual outcome. The couple has to be fully committed to each assignment and work together in order to grow closer together. The counselor must be prepared to guide the couple to the desired result. The desired result is what both partners want to see in the marriage. Everyone must work together toward that desired result to see 100% success. To answer the question of does marriage counseling really work, one must say that it depends on all parties working together. When they all work together they will find that the answer is yes, marriage counseling really does work.

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