How Do I Tell My Husband I Cheated?
Hello, my name is Carol Ann. I have been married to John for the past twelve years. For the most part, my husband and I do have a good relationship but I have been keeping a secret for the past ten years. I did something wrong, and I needed help answering a burning question: How do I tell my husband I cheated?
Ten years ago, I was going through a rough time in my life, and more importantly in my marriage. Instead of handling the issues like a mature person, I let my vulnerability get the best of me and I cheated on my husband. Even though it was a one-time thing, that one time changed my life and I regret it so much.
My constant feeling of regret and hiding a secret affected me in so many ways. I always had the fact that I cheated in the back of my mind, and it made me so short with people. Anytime that I would argue with my husband, I would blow things out of proportion and walk around being paranoid all of the time. There have been several occasions that I accused my husband of cheating, when in fact I knew that he wasn’t. I was trying to mirror my life on his.
Mirroring My Issues
I know that it was wrong to constantly accuse my husband of actions that I did, but I just couldn’t help myself. I couldn’t trust anyone because I was unable to trust myself. My husband didn’t appreciate being treated the way that I was treating him, and he was one hundred percent right. Instead of admitting that I do agree with him, I would try to play coy about it, and pretend that it is him that is the crazy one. I didn’t want him to think that I was hiding something.
After going through years of hiding, and fighting because of the way that I was acting, I finally decided enough was enough. I needed to change things about myself, and about our relationship. I owed it to my husband to be honest but I was so scared of the consequences. My husband is my best friend, and it really destroyed me knowing that what I did could and quite possibly will destroy everything that we built. My husband will be heartbroken, and after what I put him through for all of these years, he will never be able to trust me again.
Even though my awful decision would cause many consequences, I knew that I needed to let my husband in on this secret. I also knew that I couldn’t do it by myself. I needed help answering, how do I tell my husband I cheated? After brainstorming all night, every night, I finally came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program.
Through this program, I was able to speak to my husband, and for the first time in years, I was able to finally be honest with my husband and myself. My husband did not handle what I did lightly, but through Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program, we were able to gain the tools that we needed to communicate with each other in a healthier manner. Although it will take a while, I am glad that I am still able to have hope.