How To Tell If Your Husband Is Lying
Hello, my name is Krisann. My husband Scott and I have been married for almost thirteen years. Throughout our marriage, we certainly had our ups and downs but always worked through them as a team. Never once did I doubt the veracity of my husband…until recently. A friend of mine actually told me that I should learn how to tell if your husband is lying. I was in major denial at first, but it quickly turned to anger.
My husband and I used to have a good marriage until he had a change in lifestyle. He lost a lot of weight, and with the pounds that he shed, came a new attitude. He used to be a great team player, and upfront about everything. Now, he is extremely secretive and feels that he has to lie about everything.
Lies, Lies and More Lies
Every time I ask my husband where he was or what he was doing, he would make up crazy stories. He literally would be nodding his head yes, while telling me no. It was beyond confusing but mostly it was very frustrating. There was no reason to lie to me. At least that is what I thought.
The truth is, I have no idea what my husband is trying to cover up. Is he having an affair? Is he out with his friends too much instead of me? Maybe he is just not that into me anymore. I have so many questions that need answers but approaching my husband with accusations doesn’t seem like the right way to go about it. I know that my husband is lying about things but I have not a clue why.
Knowing my husband is lying to me constantly, doesn’t make things easy for me. I became very insecure as a person, and as a wife. I want to trust my husband more than anyone in the world so having him lie is just not okay for me. It tears me up inside. Instead of expressing my feelings towards my husband, I naturally bottled everything up inside. Little did I realize that not expressing my feelings would cause so many little arguments that would turn into big arguments. We went from being a couple that rarely fought to constant tension around the house.
Looking back on the past, I started to wonder if my husband ever told the truth to me. It hurt me so much that I even had to think that for a second but I needed to. I had to reevaluate our marriage, and our relationship. Maybe he isn’t who he says he is? Maybe he has another family that I have no idea about.
Needing A Change
I love my husband dearly, and I want so much to get back to where we once were. Hopefully when he was truthful. I finally got the courage to speak to my husband about my feelings. To my surprise, my husband actually admitted that he needs help, and by saying “he” he means “we”.
Right after my husband’s suggestion, we looked for counseling in our area. I was proud that I was able to go back friend’s advice and actually learn “how to tell if your husband is lying” by participating in Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Together, my husband and I were finally able to have truth back in our marriage.