My name is Lisa and my husband, Peter, and I are the world’s biggest proponent of marriage exercises. Six years ago I married the man of my dreams. Six years later we realized that we just didn’t know how to talk to each other anymore.
Somehow we forgot!
It had been so easy when we were dating and even when we were newly married. In fact, my husband was my favorite person to talk to and the first one I ran to with news—good or bad.
However, somehow we lost that great communication in our marriage. What helped us get it back was a series of marriage exercises that was simple, effective and even fun.
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Communication in Marriage Takes Work
It took us a long time to realize that we really weren’t enjoying talking to each other (or even talking to each other at all) the way that we used to. It wasn’t a sudden thing and we didn’t go through any particular crisis or trial.
The problem, we now realize, is that we didn’t take the care necessary to foster our communication in marriage.
We obsessed over advancing at our jobs, paying the bills, having and raising our kids and all of those other things that take the time and energy of adults. We should’ve also obsessed over each other.
Communication in marriage is essential to a strong, healthy and happy marriage, but we weren’t doing anything to nurture it. We talked about what needed to be done, who needed to be where and what bill needed to be paid.
We almost never just talked about what each of us was going through, what we were thinking about or what we were dreaming about. You know, all of those things you discuss naturally as a young couple.
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Fortunately, someone suggested an alternative online marriage counseling program before things became even worse. Yes we were feeling unhappy and unsatisfied, but neither of us was looking elsewhere or thinking of divorce.
The online marriage program was a great solution for us. We didn’t think things were bad enough to see a counselor and we wouldn’t have had the time or money to see one, anyway.
Through the online therapy, we learned lots of ways to spot signs of trouble with communication in marriage. We also learned ways to get that natural communication going again. The counselor gave us a whole series of marriage exercises that got us talking and thinking together in a way we hadn’t done for a long time.
Some of the marriage exercises were tough to do. They forced us to really look at the way we were handling our relationship and that was hard. However, if you want to know how to save your marriage, you have to look at some hard realities.
Fortunately, a lot of the marriage exercises we did were fun, like role-playing (we reversed roles) and games. We did one that was similar to The Newlywed Game, which was a nonstop laugh, but reminded us that we still had a lot to discover about each other.
That alone was worth doing all the marriage exercises in the world.
Find the Marriage Exercises That are Best For You
Not all marriage exercises are about communication in marriage. We found a lot of relationship building activities that were geared toward rekindling romance, setting goals and almost any other situation you can think of.
One thing we learned: whatever your situation, there’s someone else out there in the same place.
There are a lot of resources available; you just need to find the ones that apply to your particular situation and needs. You can learn how to save your marriage or just strengthen an already great relationship.
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We’re so grateful for the help we’ve gotten and we feel stronger than ever. Now it’s your turn to make the most of your marriage.