My husband told me he was not in love with me! I was so scared. Your program saved my marriage. My husband was really resistant. He made a major turnaround! We are connected like never before. Thank you for what you do. It really works and it creates miracles. What happened to me feels like one.
MORE REVIEWSDo you want to CHANGE THE MOMENTUM in your marriage? It's not easy. It's a tricky matter. Your instincts have probably been counterproductive. That's because there's nothing intuitive about doing a 180 in a relationship. In fact, if you follow your impulses, you'll ruin every chance you ever had and make a mess of your situation. But if you follow the instructions in Marriage Fitness Home-Flex, you'll see how EVERY relationship is governed by certain core principles. And if you learn those principles and learn to align your actions with them, you'll SHIFT the energy in your relationship and get a NEW MOMENTUM! But CHANGING THE ENERGY in your marriage is just the beginning. Then, Marriage Fitness Home-Flex will guide you step-by-step through a complete rebuilding of your relationship.
This is a good time to warn you. This is NOT a quick-fix program. Marriage Fitness Home-Flex will help you reform the roots of your relationship, move through hurt and betrayal, and implement new habits that will secure your love for a lifetime. But you have to be willing to pay the price. And I'm not talking about the price you pay me. I'm talking about the price of your time and effort. Are you willing to try? If not, don't waste your time and money. But if you're willing to commit yourself to the 9 phases of the program AND to implement the system, you'll succeed. There are a few exceptions. The program will NOT work in cases of physical abuse or severe mental illness (like schizophrenia). But if that's not your situation, then this program can help you.
My wife and I were deeply in love. I remember staying up all night talking, surprising each other with thoughtful gifts, and speaking to each other in code words. You know the feeling of really being connected? That was us.
But then something happened that destroys most marriages. We had a son who died when he was one week old. And then we had twin daughters, who also died as newborns.
Your situation probably was not so tragic, but something happened. What was it? How did you lose each other? An affair? Neglect? Or maybe you can't put your finger on why things aren't right anymore. That's common too.
For us, after losing 3 children, everything felt different. Instead of talking all night, it was a chore to talk for a few minutes. Instead of using our code words, we used curse words. Our relationship consisted of screaming matches and silent treatments.
Somewhere deep in our heart though, like you, we knew we didn't want to lose each other. So we made a commitment to work on our marriage. Sometimes I tried and my wife didn't. Sometimes my wife tried and I didn't. Sometimes we tried together. We went through different stages of "trying."
What did we try? We tried the obligatory, "Honey, let me repeat what you said to make sure I understood you correctly." We applied conflict resolution strategies. My wife learned about Mars and I learned about Venus. We even went to counseling to wrestle with our problems. But guess what. Nothing changed. Nothing worked.
All the advice we got (books, counselors...whatever) asked us to confront our problems. But that just made us feel worse. And fight more.
As long as the usual methods weren't working, why not be dysfunctional? So we tried to convince each other. You tried that too, right? Obviously, that doesn't work.
Finally, we had a breakthrough. We decided to SET ASIDE OUR PROBLEMS. We didn't talk about them at all. We didn't bring them up even once. Instead, we put our energy into trying to connect. We used certain relationship techniques that transformed our marriage. Not only did we resolve our differences; we fell in love again! And we did it not by dealing with our problems (as serious as they were), but by establishing new relationship habits that brought positive energy to our marriage.
This is the solution to most marital situations
to "step away" from your problems and spend your time and energy building your relationship through positive actions. If you do this RIGHT, your problems will dissipate, the threat of divorce will go away, and the other people invading your marriage will become irrelevant. Slowly but surely you will feel close again.