How to Build a Marriage...being a Marriage Builder

by Mort Fertel, Author of Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel

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Have you ever been to a winery?

Can you imagine what it would be like to be one of those grapes? Really...play along with me here for a moment.

Can you imagine what it would be like to be plucked, pushed, crushed, pressed, skinned, and fermented? OUCH! The pain! What’s the point of it all?

A lot of people feel that way about the pain they experience in their marriage. "Why am I doing this? Where is this relationship going?"

But just as a grape goes through a difficult process before it becomes a fine wine, sometimes our marriage has to go through a painful process before it matures.

The people who have the best marriages are NOT people who grew up well-adjusted, have healthy adult lives, and normal parents. People like that usually have OKAY marriages.

The BEST marriages are with couples who were crushed, who went through a painful process, and who built their relationship from the ruins of broken hearts.

There’s an ancient song by King David, "Those who sow in tears will reap harvest in glad song."

And so it is that pain is often the preview to pleasure. Any woman who has experienced child birth can testify to this truth.

In my private sessions with people whether it’s via telephone or the full day "house calls" I do, I have noticed that very often the turning point in a marriage is when a couple hits rock bottom. It’s not until they’ve been through the worst that things start to get better.

But the turnaround in a marriage is NOT automatic. Just because you hit bottom, does NOT mean you’ll bounce back. If you don’t make it happen, you’ll just crash. In order to turn your marriage around, you have to take RESPONSIBILITY.

What does it REALLY mean to be responsible? A person who is responsible has the ABILITY to RESPOND. In other words, if you take response-ability for your marriage, then your marriage is not determined solely by what happens; it’s also determined by how you RESPOND to what happens.

A responsible person is not a victim to their circumstances. They are the master of their fate. How you respond to your marital circumstances today WILL determine your marital circumstances tomorrow. YOUR actions create your marriage. You can turn sour grapes into a fine wine.

If you know how to do this, then do it now. If you need help, then USE ME. I can help you. Years ago my marriage was hours from "done." I turned it around and I can show you how too. I’ve helped thousands of marriages.

Making a relationship work is not mystical. Love is NOT a mystery. You don’t have to be "lucky in love." You can "make love." You just have to know the recipe.

The  Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp...you don’t have to go anywhere to do it; it’s a TELE experience. All you need is a telephone. For details or to register, go to:
http://www.MortFertel.com/tele-boot-camp.asp

If your spouse won’t join you, then sign-up for the Lone Ranger Track, which is designed to help people in marriages with obstinate spouses. If you and your spouse want to do the program together, then register for the Duo Track. For more info about these tracks or to register, go to:
http://www.MortFertel.com/tele-boot-camp.asp

The Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp is a 7-week multi-sensory comprehensive marriage-transforming experience. The price is the same whether you register with your spouse (Duo Track) or without (Lone Ranger Track). To register or for more info, go to:
http://www.MortFertel.com/tele-boot-camp.asp

If you can’t wait until the next boot camp begins or if you don’t have 7 weeks to turn things around, then order... MARRIAGE FITNESS HOME-FLEX A 9-Phase interactive multi-sensory relationship-changing self-guided system that gives you everything you need to transform your marriage. And you get it all tomorrow! For more information or to order, go to:
http://www.MortFertel.com/home-flex.asp

If you need help with your marriage, at the very least get yourself the MARRIAGE FITNESS AUDIO LEARNING PROGRAM. It’s a 5 CD starter program that you’ll find to be an invaluable guide to renewing your marriage. For more info or to order, go to:
http://www.MortFertel.com/audio-program.asp

Lastly, and I mean this, if you need marriage help but prefer to seek it elsewhere, feel free to ask me and I’d be happy to refer you to other competent sources. This is not about me. It’s about YOUR MARRIAGE. And if you’re reading this, the chances are very good that you need some external guidance. It’s EXTREMEMLY RARE for a couple to successfully work through their marital problems by themselves. You need help!

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