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Did you know that over 75% of people that go
to marriage
counseling report that they're WORSE
off or divorced less than a year later?
Imagine
spending all
that time and money in marriage
counseling trying
to solve your problems and learning communication techniques only to
find that nothing worked and that at best you're in the same place as
when you started.
Now there's an ALTERNATIVE to marriage
counseling—it's called Marriage Fitness,
and it's a proven system for saving and restoring marriages.
Are you ready to get your marriage
back on track?
 Hi. I'm Mort Fertel. Marriage
Fitness is a ground-breaking systematic
relationship-changing program that teaches you to neutralize your
problems and implement a program of positive relationship habits that
change the way you and your spouse relate. Those changes in turn
“stop the bleeding” in your relationship and
restore the connection you and your spouse once had. And the best news
is—you don't have to talk about the past, hash out your
problems, or practice communication strategies. This is not marriage
counseling; it's Marriage Fitness.
Whether you've tried marriage
counseling or not, Marriage Fitness works for relationships suffering
from:
Infidelity • Lost Trust
• Emotional Neglect • Addictive
Behaviors
Emotional Abuse • the Brink of
Divorce • Boredom • Separation
A
Stubborn Spouse • Emotional Infidelity
• Silent Treatments
You can do
the program
together, but one of the unique features about Marriage Fitness, as
opposed to marriage counseling,
is that it works even when only one spouse does it!
A woman
named Patty who
used Marriage Fitness after a bad experience in marriage counseling
wrote me as follows:
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Dear
Mort,
I did your program alone in April after
months of a horrible experience in marriage counseling that ended with
my husband moving out. After following your advice my husband
moved back home in June (on my birthday!). We're now doing
Marriage Fitness together and he says he's totally committed to making
our marriage work. And it IS working!
Thanks for your help.
Patty D.
Pittsburg , PA
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I've been helping people like Patty
save their marriages for years. Because Marriage Fitness has been
profiled in Family Circle, Psychology Today, the Washington
Post, Glamour Magazine, and on national TV including NBC,
CBS, and Fox News. And it's endorsed by John Gray, Ph.D., the famed
author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.
But if you're just now having marriage problems you may not have
noticed. So here's an opportunity to find out what Marriage Fitness is
all about and get some FREE MARRIAGE HELP. Sign up in the box below and
I'll send you my FREE report "7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage."
There're no strings attached. The principles and practices advised in
the report have helped heal thousands of marriages. In fact, there are
now over 50,000 subscribers! Again, it's FREE, so go ahead and type in
your first name and email address and I'll send you my free counsel
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Okay, now
let's look
further into the matter of marriage counseling.
Have you
ever considered
(or are you in) marriage counseling? If your marriage is in trouble,
the answer is probably YES.
But will
marriage
counseling help you? Will marriage counseling be a healing experience,
or will it make your situation WORSE?
As you know,
Marriage
Fitness is an ALTERNATIVE to marriage counseling. Why do we need an
alternative to marriage counseling? What's wrong with marriage
counseling?
I'd like to
share with
you some insights about marriage counseling and how to go about
restoring your relationship.
Most marriage counselors who work with
couples are
trained to do INDIVIDUAL counseling. They view their marriage
counseling work as an extension of individual psychotherapy. This is
ridiculous. It's like asking a private tutor to take over a classroom.
Let me explain.
Individual counseling is a laidback
experience. The
counselor asks questions and empathizes patiently as the client tells
their story. Wherever the story goes the counselor follows and makes
sure the client feels heard. Together, the client and the counselor
discuss available options.
This method
will NOT
work for restoring a marriage.
Work on a
marriage
requires STRUCTURE, DIRECTION, and GUIDELINES. And the role of the
professional in session is to be assertive and provide LEADERSHIP.
Otherwise, a couple will simply move the battle ground from their house
to their therapist's office. The therapist may feel that a lot has been
clarified, but that's because it's the first time the therapist heard
the fight. For the couple, nothing was accomplished. In fact, the
couple leaves the session feeling hopeless that not even marriage
counseling can make a difference.
Helping a
couple heal a
relationship is a completely different process than helping an
individual "find themselves." If you want help with your marriage, you
don't just want a professional to listen; you want someone with the
confidence and the ability to provide a clear path to healing and who
isn't shy about holding you and your spouse accountable to it. In
short, you want LEADERSHIP. You want direction. You want someone to
tell you what to do...what's worked for other couples. Marriage
counseling usual fails in this regard. Marriage Fitness, on the other
hand, provides a clear and proven step-by-step system for renewing your
marriage.
Another
problem with marriage
counseling is that it unnecessarily demands that both
parties get in touch with their FEELINGS.
Picture this: one day Brian gets a wake-up
call from his
wife and realizes he better shape up or he's going to lose his family.
Finally, Brian agrees to go to marriage counseling. Early in the first
marriage counseling session the counselor asks Brian, "How do you FEEL
about being here?"
Brian says, "I just want to save my
marriage."
"No Brian, that's not a feeling," says the
counselor,
"that's a thought. How do you FEEL?"
"I don't know," says Brian, "I thought we
could talk
abou t solutions to..."
"Brian, you need to work on yourself first
before you
can work on your marriage."
But Brian is NOT interested in individual
counseling.
He's not looking for insight into himself; he wants to fix his
marriage. He doesn't care about his psyche right now; he cares about
his wife. And there's nothing wrong with that!
Unfortunately, marriage counselors sometimes
advise
spouses to separate into individual sessions when they really want to
work on their marriage. But individual counseling is NOT a prerequisite
for marital work!
Let me be clear about this point. I'm NOT
saying that
there's anything wrong with self discovery. In fact, understanding
yourself can only be positive AND it will certainly help you succeed
with your marriage. However, it's not necessary. You CAN transform your
marriage without entering individual therapy.
I want to
share with you one more very important point about marriage counseling,
but before I do let me again invite you to receive "7 Secrets for
Fixing Your Marriage." It's FREE and I promise that it will get you on
your way to saving and restoring your marriage. Go ahead and opt-in
now. You can come back and read the below afterwards. Also, let me
mention that you can unsubscribe at anytime and I will NEVER share or
sell your contact information. Your privacy is important to me.
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Here's
another big
problem with traditional marriage counseling.
Many marriage counselors would describe
themselves as
"neutral" therapists; meaning that they aren't in favor of marriage or
divorce. Instead, their job in the marriage counseling process is to
guide you through a cost-benefit analysis. In other words, would you
gain more by staying married or getting divorced?
If you should happen to meet a marriage
counselor with
this approach, while you're at it, ask them if you should buy or rent.
(Ha Ha!)
Our society has become very consumer
oriented.
Unfortunately, this consumer mentality has seeped into marriage
counseling. But deciding about your marriage is NOT akin to a
purchasing decision. Relationships and family values do NOT lend
themselves to charts listing pros and cons. That would be like trying
to grasp an idea with your hand; it's the wrong approach. And it won't
work.
The other thing worth noting about this
cost-benefit
approach which is typical amongst "neutral" therapists (by now you can
see that they're not really neutral) is that it "favors" the more
self-oriented spouse. But in a troubled marriage, it's that selfishness
that needs to be tamed not freed.
I want you to know that I am NOT neutral.
Except where
there is physical abuse or danger, my job is to support the POSSIBILITY
that you can restore your marriage. I'm pro-marriage. I'm not on your
side or your spouse's side. I'm on the side of your marriage. And I
think that's what most people need when they're having marital
problems; someone to show them hope and offer them a clear path to
restoring their relationship.
Recently I helped a woman named Julie save
her marriage.
After a failed experience in marriage counseling, she went through the
Lone Ranger Track of the Marriage
Fitness Tele-Boot Camp and I had a number of private sessions
with her and eventually with her husband too. She said something to me
after she felt safe in her marriage that I'm really proud of and that I
think marks the distinction between Marriage Fitness and marriage
counseling. Julie said, "You know Mort, when we went to marriage
counseling, the counselor just kept asking us questions. But I got sick
of being asked questions. I wanted answers. You gave me answers. And
for that I'm thankful."
If you'd like answers too, then click on the
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One last
important
point. I want to be clear that I'm not against marriage counseling.
There are some very good counselors who truly understand how to help a
couple succeed with their marriage. My comments about marriage
counseling above are generalizations. Generalizations, by definition,
are generally true. Of course, there are exceptions.
I wish you well. And please let me know how
I can help
you.
Warm
regards,
Mort
Fertel
Founder
of Marriage Fitness
An
Alternative to Marriage Counseling
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