Marriage Matters
What Choice Do You Have
Were your mom and dad happily married?
Is your marriage like theirs was?
If you’re having marriage
problems, the chances are good that your parents struggled in their
marriage too. Research shows that if your parents divorced, then your
marriage is more likely to end in divorce as well.
Freud documented well the impact that
heredity and upbringing has on a person’s fate. We learn
"tapes" early-on that we play again and again oblivious to how they
control (and destroy) our lives. But does that mean the destiny of your
marriage was determined years ago? Does that mean your fate was sealed
by your genes and your childhood?
There is no doubt that you have deeply
rooted relationship instincts. But those instincts do NOT have you.
Your past constantly vies for control
of your future, but at the end of the day YOU have a CHOICE. Your
domain is this moment, and every moment, when you can DECIDE to write a
new script. At any time, in every time, you can decide to be the master
of your destiny; rather than a victim to your past.
This, by the way, is the real value in
understanding your past and your childhood roots. So that you can
consciously REJECT what you know doesn’t work and replace old
habits with new ways.
This, of course, is no simple task.
Not only because it’s hard to break old habits and learn new
ways, but also because most people are more comfortable doing
what’s familiar yet destructive rather than what’s
constructive but unfamiliar. In other words, most people are happier
doing what they know doesn’t work than they are working on
something that they don’t know.
But that’s what it takes to
be a "transition person." A transition person is someone who breaks
free from unhealthy relationship patterns that have been in their
family for generations.
You are by no means
a product solely of your heredity or environment. There is a third
element: YOUR DECISION. And that trumps ALL past events.
By the way, this, in my opinion, is
the real meaning of marriage education...educating someone to acquire
the ability to CHOOSE their behavior.
A successful marriage is not something
that just happens; you have to craft it. It’s a result of
deliberate and conscience decisions to make a new way in your
relationship.
If you’re
ready to script a new chapter in your marriage and learn how to make a
new way in your relationship, then join me this for the next Marriage
Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. It’ll not only transform your
marriage; it’ll change the destiny of marriages in your
family for generations to come. The next program begins . For more information or to register, go to
http://www.MortFertel.com/tele-boot-camp.asp
I’ve been getting hundreds
of emails asking the same question: "Where does the Marriage Fitness
Tele-Boot Camp take place?"
The answer is: FROM YOUR HOME!
You don’t have to go
anywhere to participate in the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. All you
need is a telephone. And there’s no fancy technology needed
either. All the materials are delivered to your doorstep. It
couldn’t be easier or more convenient.
Whether you register for the boot camp
or not, I wish you the strength and courage you need to understand your
roots and break free to write new scripts for you and for your
descendents.
Once again I wish
you love in your
life.
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