I
Have A Dream
Today my family and I were having one of our 2
hour Saturday lunches (A weekly family tradition.
Something you might consider too) when we came
across some beautiful poetry by Langston Hughes.
Here's one I wanted to share with you:
Bring me all of your dreams,
You dreamers,
Bring me all your
Heart melodies
That I may wrap them
In a blue cloud-cloth
Away from the too-rough fingers
Of the world.
What a powerful message, especially from an
African American poet born in 1902.
What's your dream? Whatever it is the "too-rough
fingers" of the world probably got their hands on
your dream and squelched it. That happens in
life, doesn't it?
Your assignment this week is twofold.
First, share the poem above with your spouse
and in marriage therapy if you go.
Allow it to spark a meaningful discussion about
something other than the usual. This is one of
the challenges of save
marriage; to stimulate the
kinds of discussions that take place in new
relationships. In new relationships, everything
is new. Saving
your marriage means you have to work
at it to keep things fresh. In my personal
experience,
sharing poetry and talking about it is an example
of one way to bring new conversation to a mature
relationship.
Second, talk to your spouse about your dreams and
ask them about theirs. Again, you can do it in
marriage therapy
if you're going regularly. Get back in touch with
 those dreams before the
"too-rough fingers" of
the world got their hands on them. Support each
other in the possibility of pursuing again those
dreams. Ask for help to achieve your dreams. And
offer support to your spouse in achieving theirs.
If you have the time and energy, here's a bonus
assignment: learn about the life of Langston
Hughes. In addition to another interesting
subject for discussion, I think you'll find his
life an inspiration. When you see what this man
accomplished against all odds, it's hard to not
believe that you can achieve your dreams too.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author & Founder of Marriage Fitness
A revolutionary alternative to Marriage
Family Counseling
and marriage therapy
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