In
Sickness and in Health - How to Save Your Marriage
This was one of the worst weeks of my life. I
spent most of it sick in bed. I was horizontal
for, no exaggeration, 4 complete days. I was
never so sick in all my life. I could hardly
move. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. All I did
was suffer and shiver. The doctor called it the
flu. Boy did that make me angry. Not only because
there's nothing they can do cure the flu (you
just have to wait), but also because something
that hit this hard should have a more serious
sounding name.
So what does my sickness have to do with
marital
help?
What an opportunity my wife had. And did she ever
come through.
We have 4 kids, as you know. But for the days I
was sick, she had 5 kids. I was helpless and
useless. She took such wonderful care of me. I
don't know if you've ever been that sick, but a
person has 2 types of needs.
 The first type of need is
practical. I needed
Kleenex, chicken soup, and my medicine.
The second type of need is emotional. I needed my
head
rubbed and my hand held.
My
wife was a perfect 10!
Coming through for 1 day is expected. I would
hope I could do the same. But 4 days? That's a
long time to care for a 155 pound baby.
Have you been there for your spouse
when they've been sick? Are you tender and
gentle? Do you expect them to get out to bed
before they're ready? How could you take care of
them better next time?
Your first save
my marriage assignment this week is
to think about those questions and to
mentally
prepare yourself to be a "10" for your spouse
next
time they're sick and need you.
Your second save
marriage assignment this week is to
recite a prayer for the health of you and your
spouse.
Maybe there's one in the prayer book you use. Or
 you can find one online? Or
write one yourself.
Do whatever you have to do to find a prayer for
health and recite it WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
When we're healthy, we don't appreciate our
health. But when our world stops for 4 days
because of something as simple as the flu, we
realize how vulnerable our life is to a change in
our health.
Have a healthy week saving a marriage.
Mort Fertel
Author & Founder of Marriage Fitness,
An alternative to Marriage
Family Counseling
The
Save Your Marriage
Expert
.
|
