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Let's get some insight into household chores, who
does them, and why. It can help you saving your marriage.
The way your childhood family handled household
chores has a profound influence on how you and
your spouse split the chores and how you feel
about how they're split.
Below is a list of chores. Print them out and
make 4 columns next to each chore:
2. Wife's family
3. Who does it now
How you feel about who does it now
Complete your chart. You'll need your spouse's
input, obviously. You'll want to discover who did
the chore in your childhood home, who did it in
your spouse's childhood home, who does it now,
and how you feel about who does it now.
Here's the list of chores:
Make the bed
Pick up dry cleaning
Change the sheets
Do small repairs
Change light bulbs
Clean the bathroom
Oil change cars
Mow the lawn
Manage insurance policies
Make doctor/dentist appointments
Make weekend plans
Send birthday cards and gifts
Given each spouse's other responsibilities, how
do you feel about the division of labor? In other
words, if you're doing most of
the chores but
your spouse works fulltime that might be
understandable. If you both work fulltime but
don't share in the chores equally, that could be
a source of bitterness.
What similarities or differences do you see in
your home versus your childhood home? Ask your
spouse what they observe. Saving your marriage
might be at risk.
Ask your spouse if this exercise created any ill
will? Why? What one change could you make in
terms of household chores that would be a
meaningful contribution to the marriage or saving your marriage?
Author & Founder of Marriage
The "Saving Your Marriage"