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Sunday Chores
Let's get some insight into household chores, who
does them, and why. It can help you saving your marriage.
The way your childhood family handled household
chores has a profound influence on how you and
your spouse split the chores and how you feel
about how they're split.
Below is a list of chores. Print them out and
make 4 columns next to each chore:
1.
Husband's family
2. Wife's family
3. Who does it now
4.
How you feel about who does it now
Complete your chart. You'll need your spouse's
input, obviously. You'll want to discover who did
the chore in your childhood home, who did it in
your spouse's childhood home, who does it now,
and how you feel about who does it now.
Here's the list of chores:
Prepare breakfast
Cook dinner
Set table
Do dishes
Do laundry
Sort mail
Water plants
Make the bed
Do errands
Buy food
Pick up dry cleaning
Mail parcels
Garbage
Vacuum
Dust
Change the sheets
Do small repairs
Change light bulbs
Clean the bathroom
Oil change cars
Mow the lawn
Plant garden
Rake leaves
Pay bills
Organize garage
Deposit checks
Manage investments
Manage insurance policies
Make doctor/dentist appointments
Make weekend plans
Send birthday cards and gifts
Plan
vacations
Given each spouse's other responsibilities, how
do you feel about the division of labor? In other
 words, if you're doing most of
the chores but
your spouse works fulltime that might be
understandable. If you both work fulltime but
don't share in the chores equally, that could be
a source of bitterness.
What similarities or differences do you see in
your home versus your childhood home? Ask your
spouse what they observe. Saving your marriage
might be at risk.
Ask your spouse if this exercise created any ill
will? Why? What one change could you make in
terms of household chores that would be a
meaningful contribution to the marriage or saving your marriage?
Mort Fertel
Author & Founder of Marriage
Fitness
The "Saving Your Marriage"
Expert
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