How to Restore a Marriage
The
Secret is in the Chinese Bamboo Tree
Do
you know what happens after you plant the seed of a Chinese Bamboo
Tree?
Nothing.
That's right. Absolutely nothing. For 4 years after
planting the seed of this tree you get no satisfaction other than a
tiny shoot
coming out of a bulb.
Must be
something wrong, right? A still birth or stunted growth. A bad seed
maybe.
If you didn't
know about the growth patterns for this tree,
you'd think that all your efforts to plant and cultivate were useless.
But, in fact,
what's happening all the time is that
underneath the ground there's a massive root
structure
that's forming. You can't see
it,
but it's there and it's HUGE. Then, in the 5th year, the Chinese Bamboo
Tree
grows and grows and grows, sometimes up to EIGHTY FEET tall!
Marriages
sometimes grow like Chinese Bamboo Trees. You try
to restore your marriage and try doing kindnesses, giving gifts, being
gentle, sharing a joke, but sometimes
it takes months, even years before you
SEE the growth. But all the while you're making deposits into a secret
account
that all of a sudden (that's the way it
seems,
but, in fact, my point is that it's not all of sudden) begins paying
dividends.
It takes
maturity to be patient. And it takes maturity to be
willing to give your spouse the time they need to grow and to see that
time as
an opportunity for you to grow too.
There’s
a women who recently did the Marriage Fitness
Tele-Boot Camp who has been asking her husband to join her at the
dinner table
for SIX MONTHS. And for 6 months he's been rejecting her as he takes
his dinner
into the family room to eat in front of the TV. He was punishing her.
He was
angry.
For 6 months
she took the rejection. Everyday for 6 months
she asked him to come to dinner and everyday he said "No."
One day,
unannounced, and for no apparent reason, he said to
her while she was fixing dinner in the kitchen, "Can I join you at the
table tonight?"
"Yes," she
said, and turned away to wipe her
tears.
Did she
deserve 6 months of the silent treatment? No one
does no matter what the reason. But don't let anyone tell you to give
up. It's
NEVER too late. Things change. People change. You can restore your marriage, if you'll be patient.
The question
is:
1) How do I
learn to be patient until your marriage is restored?
2) What
EXACTLY can I do in my marriage that will build that
root structure
and lead to me to restore my marriage?
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